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DISCLAIMER: I am not against weed and parties. I am against vandalism and depriving me of sleep.
The neighbor below us is a dude in his 20s, who likes to get drunk or smoke weed and party until dawn with his chums, not only on weekends. He can sometimes be seen drinking in the hall as well. We had asked him politely a few times to settle down after midnight but he never did. We spoke to the district police officer and he paid them a visit twice - the effects were short-lived. He mentioned that they look fishy and he could smell the weed but he can't search them without a warrant. When parties went on past 3 AM we'd call the police to intervene but they either come too late (when it's over) or similarly ask the guys to turn it down and leave. We've reported the issue to the housing cooperative (administration) and they sent two letters to the flat owner (we don't know who, since it's classified personal info) but received no response. Needless to say, we experience many sleepless nights. Nobody lives in the flat below this dude and the rest of the neighbors don't seem to care or is unwilling to discuss the issue.
All of the above seems insignificant and only mildly annoying but last night the dude below went amok, like in some narcotic rage, and for almost a full hour (between 1 and 2 AM) was screaming at the top of his lungs and demolishing his own apartment - breaking dishes and furniture, smashing walls, kicking doors etc. He stormed out shortly after.
My wife had a nervous breakdown, said she couldn't go on living like this and moved out to her parents. We did not quarrel or anything but she thinks that we should move permanently. I don't want to, I like our current flat.
I called the police and housing cooperative again today, they said there is almost nothing they can do. I can go to court but:
1) I'd have to pay the process fees
2) cases like these usually get dismissed due to "no actual physical danger"
3) the neighbor would know I went against him and could retaliate
I've read some forums online about such cases and pathological neighbors usually retaliate with aggression or vandalism - I don't want to be on the receiving end of that.
I feel like I've tried every option and failed. My house doesn't feel like a home anymore. I'm sick and tired of this shit.
Have any of you had similar experiences - and what did you do?
I expect half the posts to be "beat him up" but that usually backfires so no thanks.
UPDATE 21/09/2017:
Good news everyone!
I had a long word with the district police officer and he promised to:
- come over and have a word with the delinquent himself, perhaps search the apartment for illegal substances
- find out who the actual flat owner is - and if it's not the delinquent then he will give the owner a call
ALSO we have found among our friends someone who's friends with a high ranking police officer. Since policemen are all trained in one of two police academies in the region there is a high chance that he and our local police know each other. Our police-friend will ask them to pay regular visits to the douche and keep him in check.
In short, we have the law on our side and looks like they are finally reacting. Fingers crossed.
Thanks to everyone for your posts, sympathy and advice!
Sherbros really do care!
The neighbor below us is a dude in his 20s, who likes to get drunk or smoke weed and party until dawn with his chums, not only on weekends. He can sometimes be seen drinking in the hall as well. We had asked him politely a few times to settle down after midnight but he never did. We spoke to the district police officer and he paid them a visit twice - the effects were short-lived. He mentioned that they look fishy and he could smell the weed but he can't search them without a warrant. When parties went on past 3 AM we'd call the police to intervene but they either come too late (when it's over) or similarly ask the guys to turn it down and leave. We've reported the issue to the housing cooperative (administration) and they sent two letters to the flat owner (we don't know who, since it's classified personal info) but received no response. Needless to say, we experience many sleepless nights. Nobody lives in the flat below this dude and the rest of the neighbors don't seem to care or is unwilling to discuss the issue.
All of the above seems insignificant and only mildly annoying but last night the dude below went amok, like in some narcotic rage, and for almost a full hour (between 1 and 2 AM) was screaming at the top of his lungs and demolishing his own apartment - breaking dishes and furniture, smashing walls, kicking doors etc. He stormed out shortly after.
My wife had a nervous breakdown, said she couldn't go on living like this and moved out to her parents. We did not quarrel or anything but she thinks that we should move permanently. I don't want to, I like our current flat.
I called the police and housing cooperative again today, they said there is almost nothing they can do. I can go to court but:
1) I'd have to pay the process fees
2) cases like these usually get dismissed due to "no actual physical danger"
3) the neighbor would know I went against him and could retaliate
I've read some forums online about such cases and pathological neighbors usually retaliate with aggression or vandalism - I don't want to be on the receiving end of that.
I feel like I've tried every option and failed. My house doesn't feel like a home anymore. I'm sick and tired of this shit.
Have any of you had similar experiences - and what did you do?
I expect half the posts to be "beat him up" but that usually backfires so no thanks.
UPDATE 21/09/2017:
Good news everyone!
I had a long word with the district police officer and he promised to:
- come over and have a word with the delinquent himself, perhaps search the apartment for illegal substances
- find out who the actual flat owner is - and if it's not the delinquent then he will give the owner a call
ALSO we have found among our friends someone who's friends with a high ranking police officer. Since policemen are all trained in one of two police academies in the region there is a high chance that he and our local police know each other. Our police-friend will ask them to pay regular visits to the douche and keep him in check.
In short, we have the law on our side and looks like they are finally reacting. Fingers crossed.
Thanks to everyone for your posts, sympathy and advice!
Sherbros really do care!
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