Lol no, you said you always have backup and a weapon at hand and I didn’t believe you ( and I was right since you are going on vacation defenseless).
I am the opposite of paranoid, I never have a weapon on me and I travel all over the world (also to what some might consider less nice places) and almost never felt unsafe. Most of the time if you act scared you get in trouble
This is exactly what im talking about with unspoken assumptions in these conversations; everyone is talking past each other.
Why would i ever not give myself advantages,
assuming i am going to be in situations where i can expect danger?
Whenever someone opens their mouth in a conversation about 'self-defense', you can guarantee,
they are thinking about a certain situation in particular, the particulars of which situation they are basing their statement on.
And when someone else opens their mouth to disagree with the first person, you can guarantee,
they are thinking about a different situation in their minds, the particulars of which situation they are basing their statement on.
The problem with conversations about 'self-defense' is that hardly anyone actually verbalizes (or worse, are even explicitly consciously of) what unspoken assumptions they are operating under. More specifically, hardly anyone talks about self-defense in terms of
what that would actually mean and what would actually apply to your own particular circumstances or the circumstances of whoever you're talking with.
When people simply speak of 'self-defense' in merely abstract terms, the results can only be incoherent and inconclusive; people imagining different fragments of different scenarios that would apply to one statement but not others, or inappropriately taking some measure that might be appropriate in some contexts, and trying to apply it to
all contexts.
If you are interested in how two unarmed combatants might best overcome each other, then you don't need a 'self defense' guru in the first place, you go to a gym and start training.
If you are interested in how to deal with multiple attackers, then you won't find an answer in the gym, because the answer is
have multiple guys yourself too.
(Well, you might actually still find that answer at the gym too, if you make your gang there).
So often, people tend to predicate conversations about self-defense in terms of 'the worst case scenario'. Unspoken assumption:
why is everyone in these hypotheticals arbitrarily disadvantaged? No mention of how unreasonable it would be to not give yourself a given advantage, to ensure you are in more of a position of power, or how unreasonable it would be to even find yourself in a given situation in the first place, due to choices or behavior.