I don't get this, it's not that hard. The overwhelming majority of women and girls are not hardcore feminists so to me that line of thinking looks like an excuse for not taking responsibility for your own well being and actions. Sure, we've had to grow a little as men and are perhaps more considerate and aware, but the clear majority of women are still attracted to ambition, confidence and a willingness to be your own person. Same as it always has been. Just don't be a creep or a douche, take care of yourself and do things you enjoy. Don't put women up on a pedestal like some mythical creature and be all emotional and blame everyone else or the "feminazis". They are regular people so treat them as such and everything will go much more smooth.
Important to note, not everyone is going to like you and that's entirely fine, they are not under any obligation to do so like you are not under any obligation to like them. Don't buy in to this whole "SJW, FEMINISM ARE HOLDING ME BACK" crap, because it is entirely just that and you'll just end up holding yourself back.