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I've been dating now for about 5 years since divorcing and must say I love it. I find the women options for me at this age are fantastic and I can date across a big age range.
However,
And there is always a however...
Anytime I start getting somewhat serious about a girl it becomes clear that she has used social media and other avenues to try and piece together every piece of my life and every interaction I've had with other females.
And I am not naïve and do not think they should not look but twice now, as things have got more serious, I am shocked by how much they have correlated and how deeply they have snooped.
And it causes problems as typically only having a portion of the picture raises more doubts in the gal than it answers. And as doubts pile up I have seen the gal start to lose 'trust'. But they have a problem as they do not want to admit who they know what they know (snooping) and therefore have to ask veiled and leading questions to try and figure it out. Questions i just won't answer even if the answer is benign because I want them to own up to their snooping. If you're trying to catch me being sneaky or deceitful (which I am not) then own up to your sneakiness and deceit.
it has caused real issues for me with the ladies withholding 'how they have come to the questions they have' but demanding I answer vague and leading questions. Basically I say F-You (more gently) as I just hate that game. And they then claim it is becoming a 'trust' issue.
So my question sherbro's is are you finding the same thing? Gals as super sleuths or are you a super sleuth doing that to the people you date? Do you like it? Accept it? do you answer vague and leading questions without first knowing where the question is coming from?
this issue may just see me only dating and moving on to the next one for a long time. I really do not have anything to hide in my life (pretty open book) but I do hate snoops and particularly hate leading, veiled questions.
However,
And there is always a however...
Anytime I start getting somewhat serious about a girl it becomes clear that she has used social media and other avenues to try and piece together every piece of my life and every interaction I've had with other females.
And I am not naïve and do not think they should not look but twice now, as things have got more serious, I am shocked by how much they have correlated and how deeply they have snooped.
And it causes problems as typically only having a portion of the picture raises more doubts in the gal than it answers. And as doubts pile up I have seen the gal start to lose 'trust'. But they have a problem as they do not want to admit who they know what they know (snooping) and therefore have to ask veiled and leading questions to try and figure it out. Questions i just won't answer even if the answer is benign because I want them to own up to their snooping. If you're trying to catch me being sneaky or deceitful (which I am not) then own up to your sneakiness and deceit.
it has caused real issues for me with the ladies withholding 'how they have come to the questions they have' but demanding I answer vague and leading questions. Basically I say F-You (more gently) as I just hate that game. And they then claim it is becoming a 'trust' issue.
So my question sherbro's is are you finding the same thing? Gals as super sleuths or are you a super sleuth doing that to the people you date? Do you like it? Accept it? do you answer vague and leading questions without first knowing where the question is coming from?
this issue may just see me only dating and moving on to the next one for a long time. I really do not have anything to hide in my life (pretty open book) but I do hate snoops and particularly hate leading, veiled questions.