Friends with a married couple... the husband cheated.. should I snitch?

I’m not sure you understand the depth of what’s at stake for the couple in question. You drop that bomb on their relationship and walk away while they go through years of pain. The dude fucked up without a doubt, but did he do anything to you? Maybe he’s super remorseful and after she finds out he puts a bullet in his head leaving the kids without a Dad. Still think it was a good idea to “do the right thing”?


Yes he did something to you. He fucked over your friend.

Maybe he's not remorseful and he keeps fucking over your friend.

Either way, if you were the victim you would want your friend to tell you and would consider it a betrayal not to. What's that whole do unto others as you would want done to yourself" or whatever that phrase is
 
so he should just tell her truth and no shame
Her shame -- some people make compromises in life that they aren't comfortable ackwoledfing let alone discussing with neighbors, even friends.
 
That does not answer the why question. Why stay with a known cheater. Cheating requires lies. Lots of lies, not just one lie. It requires the asshole piece of shit to lie repeatedly and frequently. In reality cheating is not just one mistake, one fuck up, it is a whole series of intentional betrayals and lies. Why take that back and work on that for a relationship?

All of these people I referred to who obviously cheated on their wives, stayed married to them for 50 years or more. One took care of his wife the last 3 years of her life when she had dementia and didn't know who he was when she died at 79. I don't know if their spouses ever knew about their infidelity. They seemed happy and raised good families. Maybe if they had known, they would have split up.

I also know a man whose wife died of lung cancer in her 60s. She told him shortly before she died that she had cheated on him. What purpose did that serve? He lived another 20 years knowing that when he could have been happily ignorant of it.
 
I'd kill people before I'd even think of cheating on my wife. We've been together 22 years. Cheaters are pieces of shit. A lot of people just can't stay with one girl for a long time, and that's fine. Just don't get married and build a family then decide to cheat.

What about the porn chick you are pineing over?
 
This lady will probably find out and then blame you. You're in a lose-lose situation.


Wrong.

If the lady finds out by other means, she will never know that you knew.

Why?

The guy would not sabotage you, the bro who kept his secret for him.
Plus the guy would not tell his wife that you knew, because it would make her feel worse which is the last thing he wants.

You could
A) tell her, ruin their family and you lose 2 friends.

B) let them figure it out on their own, the guy being the one who ruined the family, and you keep both friends.

C) let them figure it out on their own, the guy being the one who ruined the family, bang the MILF divorcee you've had a crush on for the last 20 years, you lose one guy friend but add one side piece.
 
No, I'm married and have a daughter. My daughter and their eldest daughter are semi close friends.
oh ok... something tells me you're trolling... but ill be entertained.

this is prob like the 150th time he cheated on her... so you're going to let your close friend keep getting deceived?
 
All of these people I referred to who obviously cheated on their wives, stayed married to them for 50 years or more. One took care of his wife the last 3 years of her life when she had dementia and didn't know who he was when she died at 79. I don't know if their spouses ever knew about their infidelity. They seemed happy and raised good families. Maybe if they had known, they would have split up.

I also know a man whose wife died of lung cancer in her 60s. She told him shortly before she died that she had cheated on him. What purpose did that serve? He lived another 20 years knowing that when he could have been happily ignorant of it.
Nice way to ignore the massive chain of lies and betrayal involved.. No matter how you sugar coat it, it is not one lie, one betrayal. It is many. Lots of them.
 
Everyone's got their own problems.

This isnt one of yours.

Mind your own business brotendo
 
My friend's wife was fucking someone else in my circle of friends. For some dumb reason I told the guy. Now no one is friends in the group anymore. Should have kept my mouth shut.


I have a friend of friend that that happened to, also.

Old high school friends group that split up because of a cheating couple of friends.

Not sure how they were found out, but I'm sure it would've come out sooner or later.

Probably the same in your case. Your friends would've probably been found out eventually.
 
So you are Married with kids and want to know if it’s ok to have a side piece relationship with a chick that did past porno but want to snitch this dude out?

In other words you want to fuck his wife, and think this will let you snap into that clam.

What’s gonna happen when your wife finds out and takes off with your kids and you only see them a day or two a month


Shit won’t be so cool then will it asshat
thats why i think this dude is either a troll or he has an agenda to try to get with the wife that was cheated on...

once i noticed that porno chick relationship thread this dude has up... something doesnt add up here
 
I'd kill people before I'd even think of cheating on my wife. We've been together 22 years. Cheaters are pieces of shit. A lot of people just can't stay with one girl for a long time, and that's fine. Just don't get married and build a family then decide to cheat.
so what made you create that porno chick thread? was it curiosity... or better yet you're asking for a friend right...
 
That's hilarious that you say you don't know what's best for the kids then fucking act like lying to your friend is what's best for their kids. What a joke. That's the shit you wind up with when you try to justify shitty behavior.


That's so laughable. Nobody wants to be kept in the dark on their spouses cheating. And to pretend like there's some situation where they wouldn't want to know is silly. Everyone would want to know, and a real friend would tell them.

The only person who isn't a real friend in this situation is the cheater who tried to compromise the integrity of his other friend.

I'm sorry but you're just a bitch if you'd hide that from someone you call a friend. There's a million different situations and all of them point to you being a bitch for not saying anything.

You tell them, maintain your integrity and let them decide what's best


You’re coming across as pretty rustled.... maybe you still have emotional wounds left by an unfaithful partner?


besides that, you didn’t address what I said regarding not knowing what’s best for someone else or someone else’s kids.

You seem really rustled.... maybe you have emotional wounds left from an unfaithful partner?

Would you mind addressing what I said regarding you not knowing what’s best for anyone ?

I’d also include that you don’t know what’s best for yourself.... we all think we do but the truth is.... we never know with 100% certainty what is best
 
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Sounds like you didnt do enough to stop it in the first place. Plus if you tell the wife she would think the same thing. If your 'friend' meant so much to you, you would have knocked his ass on the floor to stop him.

If he has done it once he has probably done it plenty of times before so why get worked up about it. People are cunts so just focus on your own life.
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I've seen a lot of responses like this....umm...lol wtf? I mean maybe if it was your sister, but on what planet do you beat up, or get physical with a guy for cheating on his wife? That isn't reality. lol
TS could have really stopped it by cockblocking via the chick. He could have told her "hey! this dude is married/has AIDS/is a serial killer/etc"

TS did his due diligence here. Can't stop a man from doing what he wants to do if he has his mind set on it.
 
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