You seem really rustled.... maybe you have emotional wounds left from an unfaithful partner?
Would you mind addressing what I said regarding you not knowing what’s best for anyone ?
I’d also include that you don’t know what’s best for yourself.... we all think we do but the truth is.... we never know with 100% certainty what is best
Funny you mention that. Until then I totally forgot that I was cheated on in highschool by a girlfriend with one of my friends actually. Another mutual friend told me and I was happy she did. I got to make the choice. So while it as highschool and I didn't have kids, I have literally been in this exact situation. My friend told me because they were my friend. And I'm still friends with this person a decade later.
I'm not still bothered by it. I don't really care. I do find cheating as a whole to be one of the more disgusting violations of trust that you can commit with someone who you share a life and home with. If you would do that to the person you love most, I think that says everything about your character as a person.
You don't know what's best for the children, yet you claim you hide the information because that's what is best for their children. It's hypocritical. You don't get a say in what's best for their children.
1st - fucking over your friend is not doing anything to you..... it’s doing something to your friend
2nd- you seem to love to attempt to prove your point by stating things that could happen but at the same time you ignore other things that could just as easily happen.
If someone fucking over your friend isn't your problem, then you're a pathetic fucking friend. It's just how it is.
What you do to my friend, you're doing to me too. Otherwise, they're just acquaintances.
And what else could happen? You can't uncheat. The consequences for cheating are for the victim to decide. That's what is owed to them. The victim has a right to decide if they want to be the one to stay together for the sake of the kids or murder the cheater. Whatever bad can happen, the cheater should have thought of that before. That's their problem.
And you're a spineless fuck if you would look your friend in the eyes and know that you're hiding that from them. If that's how you are as a person, fine, but I think you're a bitch made type of person and I wouldn't want someone like you as a friend.
And most certainly you wouldn't want someone like that as your friend. If your friend hid that from you, how are you going to feel when you find out? So what it really is, is that you just don't care about anyone but yourself in the situation and you hold different expectations from your friends than how you would treat them.