Friends with a married couple... the husband cheated.. should I snitch?

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  1. Bubzeh

    Bubzeh Fighting Brexit

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    Guy code!
     
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  2. Lethal_Striker

    Lethal_Striker Silver Belt

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    Who knows the couple could be swingers, maybe its finally your chance to be part of a 3 way and fuck the shit out of her. You'll never know unless you let them know about their secret.
     
  3. Lethal_Striker

    Lethal_Striker Silver Belt

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    Guy code only applies if you're friends more with the guy then the girl. Like say you're friends with a guy that's dating your sister, that's definitely not a situation where you hide behind the guy code.
     
  4. I Am Legion

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    I know so many people that lives were ruined by finding out their partner had cheated. Some of these were one time mistakes.The cheated on partner just couldn’t get over it and forgive.many of them wish they had never found out because their lives are worse off. If the guy is a serial cheater (scumbag) he will get caught. Not your job to snitch.
     
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  5. IIIIIIII

    IIIIIIII Titanium Belt

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    as fucked-up as this may sound, it's not your place to say anything. HOWEVER, what you can do, and what i personally would do, is stop hanging out with the guy. AND WHEN THEY ASK, why you stopped hanging out, THAT is when you say what happened.

    the whole thing, is for them to ask you what's going on. it's not your business, until they ask you what's going on and then you can say what you saw. before that, it's something between two people, and you are not one of those two people. it's not your business, until someone else makes it your business.

    my two cents.
     
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  6. groo

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    With him.

    They need to go on a "fishing" trip together.
     
  7. rearnakedchoke

    rearnakedchoke Suck it!

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    Nah man. Dont say shit. Not just because it is none of your business, but if she doesnt believe you, it will piss everyone off.

    The dude obviously feels he can trust you not to say shit. So, dont bother.
     
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  8. Hotora86

    Hotora86 Rooting for respectful fighters

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    IMHO no.
    Every time myself or someone I know tried being "the white knight" and "rescue" people from bad relationships they ended up knee deep in shit and enemies with everyone.

    There is a saying in Poland: "Not my circus, not my monkeys." Meaning, not my business so I don't give a fuck.
     
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  9. EJAXXX

    EJAXXX "Not Bad for an Old Man" Platinum Member

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    That's pretty foul, but me personally I'd mind my business. I wouldn't hangout much if I felt some type of way.
     
  10. ThulsaDooom

    ThulsaDooom Brown Belt

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    If the situation was reversed, would you want your friend to tell you that your wife cheated? Personally, I'd want to know because life is too short to waste it with someone that's dishonest and has no willpower.

    Chances are, this isn't the first nor the last time he'll do that.

    Guy code is bullshit.
     
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  11. Jack Reacheround

    Jack Reacheround Never Go Black

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    His is the only reasonable solution. That way, they’ve both cheated, and both cheated with you.
     
  12. John Wang

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    IMO you should tell her, especially if you're better friends with her than him. The guy is a joke and deserves nothing but a KO and a life of being alone and being miserable. There is absolutely nothing wrong with snitching, especially in this case. @LiL CeeZ
     
  13. method115

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    This is how I look at it. What would I want? I'd want someone to tell me so I can move on with my life. I wouldn't say anything but that's because I'm selfish and don't want the drama but if it was me I'd want to know.
     
  14. liljoe

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    Here's what is gonna happen if you tell her.

    The guy will swear up and down that it was a one time mistake and cry/beg for forgiveness. She will take him back. They will patch things up and move on together.
    YOU will be seen as a rat, he will probably want to strangle you and certainly never be your friend again. Now that you are no longer his friend he'll convince his wife to drop you as well for instigating the drama. He'll hate you, she'll still be with him.

    The end.
    Seen it a million times.
     
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  15. RoninJin

    RoninJin Holla At Me If You Like My Avatar

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    Do you really want to get in between people's shit
     
  16. SammyPops

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    I'd snitch. Dude has doen it before and will do it again, most likely.

    What if his wife tells you she caught the aidz or hep c or something from her husband?
     
  17. 4daLuLZ

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    That's how you get found on the side of a milk carton with REWARD IF FOUND written underneath.
     
  18. Goatenstein

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    Cheaters deserve to be stoned to death muslim style.
     
  19. Rod1

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    Well, of course if you are friends with a mafioso then you keep your mouth shut, in fact you shouldnt even be friends with a mafioso.

    Not that i have a moral obligation to defend someone being cheated, im talking about this from a friend perspective only.

    I have had a friend cheat on his wife, i told him that he was playing with fire but i wasnt friends with the wife so i didnt gave a fuck.

    He was later cheat on, so karma.
     
  20. 4daLuLZ

    4daLuLZ Purple Belt

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    I don't see how smoking ganja is going to help his friend's cheating habits.
     
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