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Ok. Now I have time to be a little more detailed.
So I got nervous about talking to her in the train car with people around, so I waited until she got off her stop.
I followed her and said to her in Russian - "hi, is it okay if I introduce myself?" [a common approach in Russian speaking countries that sounds strange in English].
She said yes, and I told her that I actually don't speak Russian too well because I was 8 when my family moved to the states.
She asked me where I'm from originally and I told her about the Asian republic I'm from. She told me that she's from Kazakhstan. [that itself might or might not have been a problem for her since Kazakhs are Muslim and my people are Buddhist. Probably not though].
She asked me how I know that she speaks Russian and I told her I heard her speak Russian on the phone. I told her that I see her every week and that I wanted to get to know her.
She seemed flattered by everything and the entire interaction was very calm.
I told her that I was actually running late for work and got off on the wrong stop so I could talk to her and she told me that she's also going to work [maybe a sign to leave her alone].
I asked her if I could take down her number and she told me that she's married.
I was like "oh, ok. Good luck!" in a calm and friendly manner and we parted ways.
I think it's more likely that she lied to me than that she's actually married but it taught me an important lesson in checking for ring fingers now that I'm in my mid-20s.
I felt really good about approaching her for the hour or 2 that followed but the disappointed started creeping in later in the day.
Overall I'm glad I pushed myself and I felt confident during work- being more gregarious than I usually am.
Blew off some steam at jiu jjitsu after work.
I'm not sure if I remember the entire situation with 100% accuracy and the way I remember it will probably be less and less crisp over time.
I'll just focus on continuing to improve myself; meditating, losing weight, gaining valuable professional and social skills (I'm in the eCommerce industry).
Some cool responses in this thread and some really lame ones.
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For some more context about myself, I'll add in some bits about my experiences with women:
-I'm 26 y/o and never had a girlfriend [besides middle school], which I would assume is laughable to many of you. I passed up a couple of opportunities to get laid in college. Some I regret, some don't. I used to smoke a lot of pot and do a lot of Adderall. Right now I could easily call up a female friend who I did drugs with and bang the shit out of her but I'm at odds morally with such a thing [she's not particularly attractive either] and she's from a pretty troubled background.
-One time I was studying with a Peruvian girl I know for a couple of weeks. She invited me to her room at around midnight to "watch a documentary" and I was literally too inexperienced to understand what that meant at the time and spazzed out [asking her why?] before she changed her mind. I maul myself over that situation because she's actually really pretty and smart and collected and it was like a 1 in 1,000 type of situation. Another time a coked out Hispanic chic tried to make out with me.
-Right now I'm a little chubby but I'm focused on losing weight. In college, I was so fit I had a six-pack at one point. Don't care about getting to that level of fitness anymore but I'd like to get back to the normal range in a month or two.
-I'm socially awkward but I have a strong sense of humor that works for most ppl around me.
-I don't have a racial preference. I like ladies who are reasonably smart, classy, and very friendly and polite.
-I'd like to hold off on online dating and would prefer to meet a woman in-person.
-I've got girls numbers before in college. Fucked it up from there [invited her to hangout and didn't actually have anything planned- it was ridiculously stupid on my part. It was during my adderall addict phase lol] but I had successes.
-I've been approached by girls once or twice in college. This was when I was super fit and super metro. I was a decent looking guy at one point and might have been interesting to some girls.
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As far as the mega-dorks in this thread talking about women being receptive/responsive to men like Brad Pitt... well duhh. What's your point?
I've seen plenty of fat/goofy/ugly looking fuckers with not much to them with pretty and awesome women enough in my lifetime to understand that there's no reason not to go out and put yourself out there.
So I got nervous about talking to her in the train car with people around, so I waited until she got off her stop.
I followed her and said to her in Russian - "hi, is it okay if I introduce myself?" [a common approach in Russian speaking countries that sounds strange in English].
She said yes, and I told her that I actually don't speak Russian too well because I was 8 when my family moved to the states.
She asked me where I'm from originally and I told her about the Asian republic I'm from. She told me that she's from Kazakhstan. [that itself might or might not have been a problem for her since Kazakhs are Muslim and my people are Buddhist. Probably not though].
She asked me how I know that she speaks Russian and I told her I heard her speak Russian on the phone. I told her that I see her every week and that I wanted to get to know her.
She seemed flattered by everything and the entire interaction was very calm.
I told her that I was actually running late for work and got off on the wrong stop so I could talk to her and she told me that she's also going to work [maybe a sign to leave her alone].
I asked her if I could take down her number and she told me that she's married.
I was like "oh, ok. Good luck!" in a calm and friendly manner and we parted ways.
I think it's more likely that she lied to me than that she's actually married but it taught me an important lesson in checking for ring fingers now that I'm in my mid-20s.
I felt really good about approaching her for the hour or 2 that followed but the disappointed started creeping in later in the day.
Overall I'm glad I pushed myself and I felt confident during work- being more gregarious than I usually am.
Blew off some steam at jiu jjitsu after work.
I'm not sure if I remember the entire situation with 100% accuracy and the way I remember it will probably be less and less crisp over time.
I'll just focus on continuing to improve myself; meditating, losing weight, gaining valuable professional and social skills (I'm in the eCommerce industry).
Some cool responses in this thread and some really lame ones.
___________________________________________
For some more context about myself, I'll add in some bits about my experiences with women:
-I'm 26 y/o and never had a girlfriend [besides middle school], which I would assume is laughable to many of you. I passed up a couple of opportunities to get laid in college. Some I regret, some don't. I used to smoke a lot of pot and do a lot of Adderall. Right now I could easily call up a female friend who I did drugs with and bang the shit out of her but I'm at odds morally with such a thing [she's not particularly attractive either] and she's from a pretty troubled background.
-One time I was studying with a Peruvian girl I know for a couple of weeks. She invited me to her room at around midnight to "watch a documentary" and I was literally too inexperienced to understand what that meant at the time and spazzed out [asking her why?] before she changed her mind. I maul myself over that situation because she's actually really pretty and smart and collected and it was like a 1 in 1,000 type of situation. Another time a coked out Hispanic chic tried to make out with me.
-Right now I'm a little chubby but I'm focused on losing weight. In college, I was so fit I had a six-pack at one point. Don't care about getting to that level of fitness anymore but I'd like to get back to the normal range in a month or two.
-I'm socially awkward but I have a strong sense of humor that works for most ppl around me.
-I don't have a racial preference. I like ladies who are reasonably smart, classy, and very friendly and polite.
-I'd like to hold off on online dating and would prefer to meet a woman in-person.
-I've got girls numbers before in college. Fucked it up from there [invited her to hangout and didn't actually have anything planned- it was ridiculously stupid on my part. It was during my adderall addict phase lol] but I had successes.
-I've been approached by girls once or twice in college. This was when I was super fit and super metro. I was a decent looking guy at one point and might have been interesting to some girls.
_____________________________________________
As far as the mega-dorks in this thread talking about women being receptive/responsive to men like Brad Pitt... well duhh. What's your point?
I've seen plenty of fat/goofy/ugly looking fuckers with not much to them with pretty and awesome women enough in my lifetime to understand that there's no reason not to go out and put yourself out there.
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