Common man!!!??
Do you realize how hard it is to lose weight let alone lose weight and make some lean muscle?
I am busting my ass in the gym and the women that I was making eye contact do not have the same dedication as me. I get it, if all things equal, the female is going to be at a high pedestal. But these women have average to above average physiques and yet I am being treated like I look like Harvey Weinstein!
I mean I am not hitting on them. All I am doing is smiling upon eye contact. I don't understand what is so horrific about this?
But either way, ultimately you are correct. I cant blame it on them being shy. Women are social creature and if they see a hot attractive man, they will give them all the looks and signal that they want to be showered with attention.
Oh well, listen learned for being a piece of shit who falsely gained confidence.
Sorry brah, I can't relate to your struggle since I've got alpha genes. I was born with lean muscle.
#slavegenes.
I'm not trying to call you a creep or anything, I'm just saying men and women don't think the same on this. They want to be hit on at certain times, by certain people, in a certain way. I'm not saying they're right, I'm just saying that's what it is.
It's not that what you're doing is "horrific", but look at all the #Metoo stuff for example. Girls are talking about how they felt uncomfortable because a guy looked at them, or gave them a compliment.
There are surely plenty of dudes that did look at them in a creepy way, or gave a creepy compliment, but there are also girls that can't tell the difference between a guy that's just being polite/social from a guy being a creep/flirt.
Your eye contact and smile says your intentions. So they're probably not trying to give you any ideas by giving you any kind of sign that it's ok to talk to them.
The sauna is a terrible place to chat up a girl, unless she initiates it. You're in a room together, and there is no escape. No one wants to get trapped into a conversation they don't want to be in, especially in a sauna.
My advice, as the last poster said, stop thinking about girls. Trying too hard just makes you look desperate, and it's VERY EASY to see. And it's not attractive. When you just go out, have fun, and are being yourself, girls are a lot more likely to either come around, or be receptive to your advances when they know you're not just trying to fuck them.
But yea, as we have all been saying, the gym/sauna is not a place you should be expecting to picking up chicks.