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I understand where you are coming from, and there is a problem within many BJJ schools that instructors do take advantage of students with their position. That's a fact for sure.Again I do think it’s different when you are part of a school team, or when the school is run by volunteers. In that case the athletes are often expected to contribute to the team because they aren’t paying a market rate. But if you are paying a market for-profit rate, I think it’s highly inappropriate for instructors to disseminate the idea that you are nonetheless beholden to them and should provide services accordingly. You aren’t obligated to them, and if they try to imply that you are, it’s a problem. Also creepy.
I see a BJJ school as a team, all in it together, and helping other people get better is part of getting better yourself, you grow together on a team in my opinion.
I can see why people who think of it as a service rendered and they should be only on the receiving end of benefit would not want to drill with lower belts and help other people because they are there to have fun and get served. Makes perfect sense. Drilling is something that I don't think is usually done right and lots of BJJ instructors suck at making that aspect enjoyable.
Like I said I come from wrestling through school before I did BJJ so I saw a lot of people with shitty attitudes and selfish motivations when I started BJJ and it was kind of a culture shock. And I was lucky enough to wrestle in a great community full of people who were truly kind and generous with their time and energy and I am super thankful for that. When you take the time to help other people get better in BJJ and truly show you care they are thankful and really appreciate it in my experience and there is huge value in that, doesn't have anything to do with the gym owner or instructor.