Should I cheat or ask for permission? | Page 7

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  1. Aegon Spengler Gold Belt

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    Ah. Okay. So you want your wife to torture you and it sounds like she already is

    So you’ve already won

    But honestly man if you want a woman to beat the hell out of you for sexual pleasure and your wife won’t do it, don’t cheat on her. For all the reasons you shouldn’t cheat anyway + she is going to figure that shit out when you have scars and bruises all over your body, alongside an irremovable smile and satisfied gaze
     
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  2. KBE6EKCTAH_CCP Arrow sash belt with Lederhosen

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    The guy wants to fuck a girl so he should get therapy? Lol Americans.
     
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  3. EndlessCritic Gold Belt

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    I'm not sure how couple's counselling is going to 1: change the fact that I have fucked up submissive fantasies, and 2: make my wife want to be intimate, when she has described multiple times that she's satisfied with our relationship.
     
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    let us be the judge thankyou
     
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  5. jgarner Red Belt

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    Well couples counseling is exactly for situations like this. It's healthy environment designed to allow you to work out your differences in a relationship.

    And I'm not sure what you cheating on your wife has to do with a submissive fantasy. Fantasies are fine as long as they aren't hurting people, and cheating to fulfill your fantasy is hurting the person you're supposed to love most.

    Couples counseling can help you find a good compromise with her. It can also help her learn to manage her own desires to fit your needs.

    The entire point of couples counseling is to help couples who have problems, and trust me you don't have any problems an experienced psychologist hasn't already heard before. Their entire goal is a healthy, honest, and satisfying change for both of you.

    Really man, cheating on your wife is some punk shit.

    It's that simple. There's no justification for it. If things are really that bad, you should be spending your energy saving your marriage or splitting up not running off with someone else. You swore an oath to that woman to love her for life. You don't have to stay married if you can't work out your issues, but cheating isn't the answer. Be a fucking real man and handle your obligations.
     
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  6. is normal Bronze in judo at the Special Olympics

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    Dude that's not really cheating.. it's just vigorous sport.
     
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  7. koolinkunming Silver Belt

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    How often do you and your wife have sex?
     
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  8. EndlessCritic Gold Belt

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    2-3 times per month. We don't really touch or kiss otherwise. And sex lasts for about 10 mins from beginning to end.
     
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    Ok, well first of all, what exactly do you want? Spill it.

    I'd probably try therapy first before talking to other women or divorce. That is, if you feel in your heart your marriage is worth saving. But if deep down you know it's not, then just go bang the other chick.
     
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  10. JLynn White Belt

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    go to fetlife.com and find a dominatrix/cuddler in your area. 7 pages. how old r u guys?
     
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  11. esum80 tiger knee

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    why don't you just tell your wife you are into some bdsm? who knows, maybe she will like it too.
     
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  12. EndlessCritic Gold Belt

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    Umm... I literally just did that, and met up with her on Tuesday, and ended up back at her place, where we both decided it was for the best that I not cheat on my wife.

    Now this girl is literally begging me on Fetlife to tie me to her bed, and I am crying on the inside being unable to accept her invitation.

    She isn't very attractive, but I'm basically her dream toy.
     
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  13. EndlessCritic Gold Belt

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    Nope. She isn't.
     
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  14. koolinkunming Silver Belt

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    That’s dangerously close to a sexless marriage. Have you tried initiating with just more hugging and kissing outside the bedroom as a way of being more intimate but not sexual? It might help improve things a bit.
     
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  15. EndlessCritic Gold Belt

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    I work 8:30 - 7 typically. When I get home I get the 3 D's. Don't look at me (in a way that suggests I want sex). Don't touch me. Don't block the TV.

    My wife just does not want to be touched, and all sex we have feels like she's doing me a favour to keep me content. (Which, spoiler, I'm not.)
     
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  16. ClubFoot Therapy can be a good thing; it can be therapeutic

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    Option 6: kill her
     
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  17. bareyb Purple Belt

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    As a married guy, my advice would be neither. Your Wife will NEVER forgive you and you will hear about it for the rest of your life or until you get divorced. If you want to stay married, accept your fate and go jerk off to Pornhub. ;)
     
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  18. west42 Purple Belt

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    Option 1- cheat
    Option 2- don't
    Pick one.
     
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  19. koolinkunming Silver Belt

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    This sounds like the root of you guys’ problems. Lemme guess......the S&M fantasies really began to be a major thing for you after your marriage had been pretty much the textbook definition of a sexless marriage? It’s a hunch.
     
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  20. horc00 Orange Belt

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    Sounds like she's got an extra large side dish
     
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