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I've had depression issues since I was about 14-15 and now I'm 27. The last 3-4 years was so bad that I had to quit my job and was suicidal. I got a shrink and just having someone to talk to really helped me a lot. About 2 years ago I got a dog, that also helped me a lot because it gave some meaning and purpose to my days.
After getting the dog I have gradually been getting better. In February this year I started working out and have been doing it consistently since (more or less, some deep depression periods and general sickness), really starting to see results and have never been stronger!
The last 2 months or I have barely felt depressed and been the best I can ever remember (even quit my anti depressants). What I've done with the energy and motivation to do things, is to learn how to dress better, eat better and look better in general. I have upped my nutrition and dressing game drastically in only 3 weeks and found I have a real passion for clothing.
Have never seen a job I actually would like to do but I'm thinking about trying to get a job as a salesperson at a clothing store for men and am pretty excited about it. Haven't had a job in 3-4 years so it's quite intimidating to think about but I'm going to continue working on making myself better for now and not stress about it.
One thing I think has helped me (no way to prove) is supplements, I take vitamin d and b, magnesium, zinc and a strong anti oxidant. All the ones I listed (except for zinc) can have an effect on depression, anti oxidants being the latest one. And of course the working out bit has also helped me quite a bit, its given me more confidence and feeling of mastery, as well as adding a bit of structure to my days.
So all in all to all of you that are having anxieties and depression, I feel for you and I've been there for a long time myself. I think I'll probably always have some depressive tendencies to be honest, but I'd like to recommend some pretty cliche things I think actually can help:
- Regular physical exercise, preferably something that you can measure (like lifting weights) to see progression.
- Trying to eat healthier and possibly try some supplements.
- Take up a hobby where you learn some sort of a skill, its important (I think at least) to get some feeling of mastery and accomplishment when you are depressed. To feel like you are still in charge and that you do have talents and not just wallowing in your own despair.
- Don't wait for motivation or some specific feeling to do things, just do them for the sake of doing them and you'll be happy you did afterwards. I rarely feel like working out (even now) but I still do it 3 times a week at around noon, and pretty much always feel better afterwards.
- If you have anxieties try getting pissed off at your anxiety, its how I overcame my social anxiety. I simply told the voice in my head that said things like (you look strange, those people are looking at you, etc) to fuck off, angrily. Then just thought about whatever else was going through my head.
- If you are depressed/got social anxiety another thing that has helped me a lot is to think of yourself as your best friend. Would you tell your best friend he was a piece of shit and that he should kill himself? Of course not. You'd be there for him and try to cheer him up and comfort him. That's what you should do to yourself as well. If I think something negative about myself I catch myself doing it and then think "now was that a nice thing to say? would I have said that to my friend? you are awesome and you know it".
- Get someone to talk to, if its a shrink, a friend or a service online where you chat with people. Getting your thoughts out of your head can very often help to ease the load of your shoulders.
- Optional but try looking into learning just a little bit about dressing yourself better, I felt better and subconsciously got a better posture and confidence simply from knowing that I was dressed well. For this I highly recommend checking out two channels on youtube: realmenrealstyle and iamalpham (they are quite different in energy and one might be more appealing to listen to than the other).
Lastly, good luck gentlemen!
After getting the dog I have gradually been getting better. In February this year I started working out and have been doing it consistently since (more or less, some deep depression periods and general sickness), really starting to see results and have never been stronger!
The last 2 months or I have barely felt depressed and been the best I can ever remember (even quit my anti depressants). What I've done with the energy and motivation to do things, is to learn how to dress better, eat better and look better in general. I have upped my nutrition and dressing game drastically in only 3 weeks and found I have a real passion for clothing.
Have never seen a job I actually would like to do but I'm thinking about trying to get a job as a salesperson at a clothing store for men and am pretty excited about it. Haven't had a job in 3-4 years so it's quite intimidating to think about but I'm going to continue working on making myself better for now and not stress about it.
One thing I think has helped me (no way to prove) is supplements, I take vitamin d and b, magnesium, zinc and a strong anti oxidant. All the ones I listed (except for zinc) can have an effect on depression, anti oxidants being the latest one. And of course the working out bit has also helped me quite a bit, its given me more confidence and feeling of mastery, as well as adding a bit of structure to my days.
So all in all to all of you that are having anxieties and depression, I feel for you and I've been there for a long time myself. I think I'll probably always have some depressive tendencies to be honest, but I'd like to recommend some pretty cliche things I think actually can help:
- Regular physical exercise, preferably something that you can measure (like lifting weights) to see progression.
- Trying to eat healthier and possibly try some supplements.
- Take up a hobby where you learn some sort of a skill, its important (I think at least) to get some feeling of mastery and accomplishment when you are depressed. To feel like you are still in charge and that you do have talents and not just wallowing in your own despair.
- Don't wait for motivation or some specific feeling to do things, just do them for the sake of doing them and you'll be happy you did afterwards. I rarely feel like working out (even now) but I still do it 3 times a week at around noon, and pretty much always feel better afterwards.
- If you have anxieties try getting pissed off at your anxiety, its how I overcame my social anxiety. I simply told the voice in my head that said things like (you look strange, those people are looking at you, etc) to fuck off, angrily. Then just thought about whatever else was going through my head.
- If you are depressed/got social anxiety another thing that has helped me a lot is to think of yourself as your best friend. Would you tell your best friend he was a piece of shit and that he should kill himself? Of course not. You'd be there for him and try to cheer him up and comfort him. That's what you should do to yourself as well. If I think something negative about myself I catch myself doing it and then think "now was that a nice thing to say? would I have said that to my friend? you are awesome and you know it".
- Get someone to talk to, if its a shrink, a friend or a service online where you chat with people. Getting your thoughts out of your head can very often help to ease the load of your shoulders.
- Optional but try looking into learning just a little bit about dressing yourself better, I felt better and subconsciously got a better posture and confidence simply from knowing that I was dressed well. For this I highly recommend checking out two channels on youtube: realmenrealstyle and iamalpham (they are quite different in energy and one might be more appealing to listen to than the other).
Lastly, good luck gentlemen!