After you've been with her for a while you realize everything's gotten stale and boring and therefore you end the relationship and will never have a true long term relationship.
They call that a "fantasy bond".
A
fantasy bond is a type of relationship where the basic tie is based on routines and roles, rather than spontaneous feelings.
The bond in this sense is the illusion of connection. In actuality it is bondage.
Members in a relationship or group subconsciously creates a pact that protects the bond from triggering the other member's separation anxiety; resulting in a loveless, helpless, mechanical relationship where members are too afraid of change to actually improve their situation.
This
bond replaces the substance of a loving relationship with the form of being a unit.
Eventually, one or more members experience a spiritual awakening that triggers death anxiety, and decide that the perceived threat of dying without actually living is far scarier than the risk of what might happen if one was to venture out into the world by themselves...therefore breaking the bond, destroying the unit; and in the case of families, creates a vicious cycle of cruelty that is passed down to the next generation.
Over 50% of marriages end in a divorce, and the majority of the remaining marriages maintain the fantasy bond. Apparently, only 3% of marriages are actually happy and successful.
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