Why do people get married? Why are we monogamous? | Page 5

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  1. Pugilistic Black Belt

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    For sure if you have kids, I think marriage is probably a good, if not necessary, social mechanism to ensure the well-being of your children. I'm not fan of that redpill shit, and I actually had a pretty strong father figure (perhaps too strong IMO) but my biggest gripe against marriage is actually government involvement. I get it. I get there has to be legal safety nets in place enforced by the authorities for the benefit of the children. I don't have a particular desire to be monogamous with one woman but if I find a woman who I am really crazy about to the point I don't even look at other women, I'll stay with her for the rest of my life. I still don't want children though so I just don't see the point in getting married. My love won't be altered because of a document says we're official. But goodluck trying to convince a woman that.
     
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  2. NHB7 Gold Belt

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    I’m monogamous because my wife is cool. I don’t need another. And if I messed around with other chicks it would hurt her feelings. I love her so I don’t want to hurt her feelings. And as it turns out, I want her to be monogamous with me as well, so I treat her how I want to be treated. It’s pretty simple really.
     
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  3. quatin Green Belt

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    It takes way more time and resources to raise a kid in modern times compared to "back in the day". Of course it would be awesome if someone wants to donate their time and money to raise my kid, but most people who want to raise kids are struggling to raise their own. They need education beyond "eat this, don't touch that". They want more shit like houses, cars, phones and clothes. When you only raise 1-2 kids, you have to baby them to adult hood. Back in the day you have 5-10 kids running around naked and playing with sticks and 2 might make it to adult hood.

    Most middle class families struggle to raise just 2 kids. One person just can't make enough resources (money) and won't have enough time (because they're working) to raise more than 1 kid at a time. Monogamy then became an allocation of roles to guarantee that each kid has a parent dedicated to providing. Back in the day, our needs were so low a handful of people can provide for an entire village.
     
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    Cool, that legal side is an anachronism imo as well. I'm a fan of the ritual, social and interpersonal connotations
     
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  5. Phlog Black Belt

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    I expect the arrangement style was a recent blip, caused by business interests etc. Common more in those of affluence.
     
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  6. Phlog Black Belt

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    Sure. If you date sociopaths. I can appreciate some people might fail at attracting an equal who shares the same goals.
     
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  7. Rod1 Yellow Card

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    Im definitively someone who i think would be happier in a polygamous relationship.

    I think 2 wives would be perfect for my lifestyle, but alas, that is impossible under the society i live in. Specially not with the wife i have.
     
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  8. esum80 MAU-RRRICI-O...SHO-GUNN!!!

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    sometimes you just find that one person that you like to hang out with the most and doesn't give you any grief so you want to lock that shit down.
     
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  9. blaseblah Black Belt

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    Only thing holding you back is your lack of game.
     
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  10. 45ACP I'll Be Back Belt

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    If you ever meet a woman amazing enough, that you connect with emotionally, spiritually and physically, and who's goals align with your own closely enough that you find yourself uninterested in other women you'll understand. It's very rare but it does happen - most people just end up settling for less due to social pressure, loneliness or insecurity (or kids).
     
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  11. superpunch Red Belt

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    Why do you care if she also dates other men and why does she care if you date other women? Are you insecure?

    My friend have other friends. That doesn't bother me. That's some control freak stuff.
     
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  12. Yellowking Purple Belt

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    It just depends on what you value. You couldn’t buy a truly committed partner that is faithful due to love, for all the money in the world. It’s an incredibly special bond and for a lot of people it has tremendous value.

    Other people value different things more. It’s cool, do what you want.
     
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  13. Phlog Black Belt

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    No, it's hardwired so we know the child is ours and our resources spent raising it are not wasted, genetically speaking.
     
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    How can you even know though? If everything you think you know is a fake mask, you wont find out till after the vows. that is what makes it such a risky trap. Not the dudes fault if the chick is hiding her true nature from him, he has no way of even knowing.
     
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  15. BudKing8806 Orange Belt

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    What kind of fucked up individual are your suggesting to raise with "the bros"?
     
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    starts with a c and ends with a k.
     
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    It is thee thing that advanced society. The societies with more of it did things, built things, evolved a culture that sustained first world living.

    Without it, you had to be violent to control women from being chimps and breeding with every male they remotely wanted to.. The guys end up fighting about that. Dad's aren't as good to kids without being somewhat sure they are theirs.

    Without it, both men and women act like tribal animals. With it, you get advancements.

    That said, our animal instincts still win a lot. We are supposed to keep that behind the curtain as much as possible, because the illusion of civility is nearly as important as the reality of it.

    That's what religion did, why it came about, and why it was so important. It made people rebuke their animal instincts. Those instincts are hard to repress. "God" is a higher plain of human behavior and thinking. That's what it was always supposed to be.
     
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  18. steve38 Brown Belt

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    Personally, I got married because I wanted a family. I was over 40 and quite happy, but you can only bang so many chicks before it gets old...and the idea of having something special in your life has greater meaning. At least I was smart enough to do it in a country where I won't get ruined with a divorce.
     
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    Doesn't everyone have a mistress in Mexico?
     
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  20. Rod1 Yellow Card

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    It used to be like that when women were submissive, also it required to have 2 households, so it wasnt technically having 2 wives, just 2 lives.
     
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