it is clearly an insecurity issue. There is no projection there on my part.
Guys who think that there gal having a male friend will lead to cheating is by definition an insecurity. That is exactly what the word means so I used it correctly. Guys saying 'straight men don't..." are projecting as they are trying to speak for all men when they can only speak for themselves.
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@thoughtsone above I have never been concerned about who my ladies friends were. If she finds someone she wants to be with more than me she is free to leave. no issues. I am not try to trap or control or limit her interactions in the hopes of controlling her to make her stay and be loyal. She either wants to stay and be loyal or she does not and if not, then go. I honestly feel sorry for guys so paranoid and so desperate to convince themselves they have taken some level of control and are preventing their gals from cheating. FLOL if they can convince themselves of that.
And I don't have any issue with you and your S.O. setting your own boundaries. I am not knocking that. I am knocking the naive machismo that makes these guys feel Alpha when they say 'they would not ALLOW their woman to...' and then think others are being beta if they are more secure than them. Sorry guys but you can really do nothing to stop your woman from having an affair if she wants one. You need her to not want to as you CANNOT stop it.