Most advice stems from a simple rule: Relationships are power struggles and the person who loves the least is in control. Women are attracted to dominant men, so if they are perfectly happy be in a position of weakness in a relationship, although they may test their partner occasionally if they don't have confidence in him.
The best advice I ever got was to follow the 3/5 ratio: Whatever she does for you, only return 3/5ths back. If she sends you 5 texts, only answer 3. If she makes you 5 dinners, take her out to 3 movies. It applies to gifts, sexual favors, conversation, chores, etc. In general, she should be working harder at keeping you happy than you are for her. One of the greatest ironies the differences of the sexes is that women are turned off by guys who try too hard to make them happy, but will chase after guys who don't make time for them.
Outstanding take and so true.
It as my trial and error experience that women no matter what their social economic class is want to feel like they have a guy other women desire. This could be the James dean "bad boy" ,the playa, the quarterback,the rich guy. You know the guy we're not.
The thing is most guys aren't playas, because they don't know how to juggle multiple women simultaneously and make it work with out their car being scratched up or doused with paint.
Most guys aren't going to be the quarterback, or the rich guy and as far as the rich guy no rules apply to him. He can be as beta as he wants and he still holds the ultimate vehicle that drives women to drop trou. And that's cash.
So we're left with the bad boy Schtick, see guys women want a bad boy that they think they've tamed, betasized,that they eventually turn into a broken low testosterone husband.
The thing is if it's a girl you really like you can't let her know that you like her...I know this seems counter intuitive. but you have to exude body language that you're not pressed ..that you could careless about that pot of gold between her legs.
This in Turn will actually make her want you even more..it's a very intense psychological game of chess you're playing if your a typical nice guy trying to land the girl you have a goofball head over heels crush on.
Now. to go the other way and be a complete goof troop and give her compliments every five seconds,but flowers, and present no challenge to her as far as her changing you from bad to good she will lose interest(unless you're rich) and go on to give her goods to an alpha.
Or even worse you get an emotional vampire a girl that is completely aware and knows that she will never give you any poontang but she keeps you around like a love sick puppy extracting money, and favors from you.
all the while giving her body in every way imaginable to the alpha or bad boy who she desperately wants. Who in comparison is doing absolutely NOTHING in terms of money and favors. Yet he can fuck her anytime and in any way he wants why you sit back waiting desperately hoping she's going to call and fulfill your goofball beta fantasy of living happily ever after.
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