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They both carry the burden. And it's his body just as much as it's hers during sex. I was being slightly tongue in cheek earlier but this is an area where the "Nope, all on her" rhetoric really doesn't make sense to me. When the 2 people are about to have sex, there is no pregnancy. There's no compelling argument that either party is more/less responsible for preventing pregnancy at this point.
And when someone suggests that the woman bears the greater responsibility, I always cross check that against their position on child support and child custody. Because on this board, we get a decent number of people complaining about how the legal system is unfair to men in these child related matters but then there tends to be some overlap with the same people arguing that the woman should prevent the pregnancy in the first place.
It's just a weird position to say that dudes bear minimal responsibility for preventing pregnancy (I'm not attributing that position to you), relative to the woman, and that dudes bear minimal responsibility for child support following pregnancy. And then to also say that "traditional family values" need to return and that feminism is destroying world or whatever hyperbolic statement is used. The whole combination suggests a world where we, men, can act in a consequence free fashion and simply shift the blame primarily onto women and absolve ourselves of acting differently/better.
We used to shame women who got pregnant out of wedlock but we also expected the men to immediately marry the woman and start providing for her financially. We recognized that both people were responsible to prevent the situation.
How much responsibility do you think a man has in deciding to have an abortion?