Has porn ruined your sex life?

Ying Li said:
He's a lazy ass and should be ashamed of not posting links.

Here is the link

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That’s not it either. Time stamp for Vag?

This chick was wearing loose shorts and the leg stretch shots sometimes the shorts would move and you would see full Vag.

Like I said I can’t fimd them anymore.
 
Just close your eyes! Don't look at the screen you cretins.
 
moreorless87 said:
Honestly though I think people tend to underestimate the emotional side to sex, the idea that its just a physical attraction at play and nothing else is IMHO questionable.

I wonder whether many Bi men or people attracted to transsexuals is more down to this, maybe people who crave a more emotionally open sexual experience and don't feel comfortable with that with women where they feel they need to be "dominant"?
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@Zer maybe you could provide some constructive feedback here?
 
Sometimes I jacked off 2 times in a row then wife wants to give me a bj and I don't think I can squeeze another one out so just say tomorrow is good so I guess it has a little bit
 
moreorless87 said:
It just seems like an easy target for the kind of "alpha self help" stuff that's all over the net given that its something almost everyone will have a little of. What always stands out with any form of self help guru IMHO is how many people will support them or the idea, basically playing up how great whatever is being espoused has been to them and how much its changed their life.

I wouldn't say fetishism itself is a negative, I think human sexuality has clearly grown far beyond just procreation, obviously helps with pair bonding but also dealing with negative emotions(with shame and embarrassment probably being the biggest, especially in very conservative cultures like Japan) that end up being sexualised. When I think it becomes a negative is when sex itself is considered shameful and you potentially get a cycle the same way you do with many other things that cane become addictive.

Indeed I think as well when sex as a whole is considered immoral I think its then a much easier jump for people to commit immoral acts related to it.
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I don't know dude, I mean it seems like bro science from the outside but I'm fully convinced of it.

My last long term relationship got fucked up by me getting into the habit of coming home from work and jerking off most days of the week. After a while it was just easier to do that than it was to initiate foreplay and all that. After a while it really seemed like my brain was wired to just do that instead of having sex with my girlfriend. Then when we would have sex, my boner was hit and miss and she would wind up getting sad because she thought it was her fault.

I noticed a huge bump in my sex drive when I stopped watching porn. I was like an animal just constantly scanning for women anywhere I went. My head was on a swivel just driving down the freeway. Almost felt like I was 15 again.

I think if you are going to watch porn, it's best to just watch the most standard porn you can find. It really doesn't seem like a good idea to get into weird fetishes and all that to me. I mean it's great if you can find a willing long term partner but it just makes it that more difficult to get turned on if just fucking the shit out of a girl and trading oral isn't enough for a person anymore. I really don't think it's just a switch you can flip if you're constantly looking up crazy shit and getting turned on by it. Naturally you're going to want that and anything less isn't going to be as fulfilling. I just don't think it's smart for a person to pigeon hole themselves into that type of situation and it has nothing to do with trying to be alpha or religion or anything like that. It's about having a good sex life.
 
MoparOrNoCar said:
I don't know dude, I mean it seems like bro science from the outside but I'm fully convinced of it.

My last long term relationship got fucked up by me getting into the habit of coming home from work and jerking off most days of the week. After a while it was just easier to do that than it was to initiate foreplay and all that. After a while it really seemed like my brain was wired to just do that instead of having sex with my girlfriend. Then when we would have sex, my boner was hit and miss and she would wind up getting sad because she thought it was her fault.

I noticed a huge bump in my sex drive when I stopped watching porn. I was like an animal just constantly scanning for women anywhere I went. My head was on a swivel just driving down the freeway. Almost felt like I was 15 again.
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That's a lot more basic than whats being claimed though, simply that not getting sexual release from one source is going to lead to pent up desire for it. I mean you'd have the same effect if you say had sex with your GF when you got home, you would probably be less inclined to have sex again when you went to bed.

Honestly I actually find not being a randy sex starved bastard makes going after women I'm actually interested in(not random girls at a bar looking for one night stands generally) easier. Big difference between the kind of conservation and flirting most "nice woman" like and the clumsy approach pickup artists seem to have.
I think if you are going to watch porn, it's best to just watch the most standard porn you can find. It really doesn't seem like a good idea to get into weird fetishes and all that to me. I mean it's great if you can find a willing long term partner but it just makes it that more difficult to get turned on if just fucking the shit out of a girl and trading oral isn't enough for a person anymore. I really don't think it's just a switch you can flip if you're constantly looking up crazy shit and getting turned on by it. Naturally you're going to want that and anything less isn't going to be as fulfilling. I just don't think it's smart for a person to pigeon hole themselves into that type of situation and it has nothing to do with trying to be alpha or religion or anything like that. It's about having a good sex life.
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If were turning into armchair sex counsellors then my guess is that if masturbation is preferred to sex by some people its because they aren't comfortable being in that open a situation with another person. That said I think theres a significant difference between fantasy's people can have(whether watching them acted out or in their heads) and actual sex, the latter being so much more intense that for most its probably enough.

I'm guessing more serious fetishism is often a way of getting past mental issues people have with the end result not being much different to regular sex. I mean something like BDSM I don't have much experience of but mentally it seems like its a way for uptight people to open up sexually. I don't think watching some kinky pornography is going to turn someone towards that if they weren't already inclined to it.
 
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NoDak said:
Make sure you do find the right broad because they're inherently psychotic and a fucking disaster on long term, live-in basis.
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100% truth. And the older they get the crazier they get....I have yet to know even a single exception.

To the topic: porn can be entertaining at times, but I find it pretty redundant and over rated. We are so constantly bombarded by sexuality in media that I find myself tuning it out regularly.
 
TheOldMan said:
100% truth. And the older they get the crazier they get....I have yet to know even a single exception.

To the topic: porn can be entertaining at times, but I find it pretty redundant and over rated. We are so constantly bombarded by sexuality in media that I find myself tuning it out regularly.
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Yeah, man. I actually gave it a real shot and was all-in at the time (especially because we have a son), but it was the most stressful experience of my life. Everyone involved is better off now and I actually have an amiable relationship with her. I'm really bad at meeting the "emotional needs" of women, the physical part has never been a problem.
 
Not at all. Porn helps the lady friend and I keep our filthy degenerate minds inspired.
 
TheOldMan said:
We are so constantly bombarded by sexuality in media that I find myself tuning it out regularly.
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I could see how kids growing up in an overly saturated market develop paraphilias too, good point.
 
Social Distance Warrior said:
I was talking to one of my religious conservative friends (think Ripskater) and he was going on about the evils of porn. What it does to women, the industry itself, how it objectifies and dehumanizes women...how it can ruin relationships. And then there is the "porn addiction" disease that has made main stream news..

Honest question boys,

I'm sure many of you remember the "no fap" group on Sherdog back in the day. There are similar groups on reddit and other forums.

Essentially these were groups vowing to abstain from porn and jerking off.

Here is my question. Do you feel that porn has detrimentally affected your sex life?

Or before you're about to do the deed, do you need to watch porn to come to full mast?

Or does only porn do it for you now?

All opinions welcome.
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Watch only amateur stuff
 
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