Have You Ever Taken a 'Break' in Your Relationship?

[Kratos94]

So, you can probably tell why I am asking this. Firstly, this girl and I have never been in a really serious relationship - we have been a couple for a year, but it has never felt as if we would progress onto anything more- anytime soon. It is quite hard to explain, we are not in an open relationship by any means; we have been exclusive to each other for the time we've been together.

However, things have been a little dry? boring? just average, I'd say. So, she requested that we try to see some other people for a month or two, and we will try again when we are happy. She was a virgin prior to our relationship, so she isn't looking for hook-ups. She did add, however, that she is open to both of us finding someone else to have a possible relationship with.

I fully intend to take advantage of this opportunity; although, I cannot deny that I have feelings for her that have only become more apparent over the past year. Do I want a break? not really. Will I still take this time to see others? absolutely. I am just wondering what will happen if we do meet someone, because she definitely would like to try again, just not now - and I feel exactly the same.

has it ever happened to you? How did it work out? Did you and your partner get back?

Edit: we are still in contact through this period, just not as a couple.

 

[aunshi189]

Seems like you're too nervous to break up and are keeping each other as back ups if you don't find anything better out there.

Obviously I can't judge your relationship but I think there'd be resentment and problems if you do get back together after this "break"

 

[SteveColdStone]

Yeah we took a break. She said she wanted time to think things over and wanted to take a trip so that she could discover herself a bit more. I gave her some money and she moved across the country and stayed with her old friends Chad, Tyrone and Jamal during our break. She came back a couple of weeks later with a huge smile on her face and we were fine, but she was walking funny and taking lots of sore throat medicine.

 

[Axxo]

Shes found a guy with a rumored huge wang. Shes keeping you on the back burner incase hes personality is trash

 

[Zinger]

I've failed it spectacularly before.

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Also seems like your feelings towards her are stronger than her's towards you , since she initiated this Idea.

Or have you thought about this too, but she broke the ice?

Maybe she hopes you slip up, so she has a reason to drop you guilt free?


I wouldn't stay in this kind of relationship. Once these kinds of conversations are being had, it's game over. Only a matter of Time. It's just not the same anymore, knowing that your partner is looking sideways and being Open about it

 

[genecop]

Yes, multiple permanent breaks from many partners..

 

[Pizza Werewolf]

Be prepared for drama.

 

[TheTickG]

When I was younger, I went through a few failed "breaks" that would last between 24-48 hours and then be forgotten about.

When I got older, I learned to do open relationships. I would see somewhere between 1-4 women at the same time.

Since early 2020, I've relearned monogamy... mostly.

My guess, if she is saying she wants a 1-2 month break, I suggest you very actively start seeing other women and relegate her to a fuck buddy. She's trying to find something better. If she starts to see you're doing too well during the break, she will likely start saying the break isn't really needed.

 

[wildchild88]

The harsh and honest truth..

Basically the person asking for the break is looking to try and cut the other person off gradually / lightly.

It's really hard to break up with someone as it's so abrupt / harsh.

People will generally say that things are getting stressful / intense and that they need some space to clear their head.. from there the distancing process begins..

 

[NoGoodNamesLeft]

Lol she alredy fucjing someone else
Get tested my dude ur hangdown might have the creeping crud
She skunds like a dirty little slut

 

[Derousey]

Dated a chick for a year, broke up, got back together like 5-6 years later. Been together for 11 years now.

:shrug:

 

[Texan6533]

Quit messing with immature girls and find yourself a woman that isn’t trying to “discover” herself.....

 

[Bacco]

Dozens and dozens, just never told her

 

[Drain Bamage]

If she starts to see you're doing too well during the break, she will likely start saying the break isn't really needed.

... and then the cycle will repeat itself

OP your relationship is over, sorry

People that love each other and want to stay together, dont contemplate shit like taking breaks

 

[Pliny Pete]

she isn't looking for hook-ups.

Thats exactly what shes doing
Shes young and bored and wants to go out and be wild
Shes breaking up with you in stages and you just dont realize it yet
Youre headed for heart break but its a part of life
It will suck really bad for awhile but you'll get over it
Best thing you can do is stop letting her control the situation, you need to man up and tell her its over, otherwise shes gonna keep stringing you along for awhile and thats gonna hurt even worse than just being done with it

 

[Cherry Brigand]

If you get tot the point where you take a break or breakup the relationship clock restarts IMO. People who are together 5 years but broke up for 3 months at year 4. Guess what you've been together for only a year.

 

[Long Dark Blues]

If you do go through with this little "break" instead of just breaking up for good, make sure you're on every dating app. Go out on dates constantly, if you can afford it.

Flirt with her friends.

You want to be the one that's having the time of their life, not the one feeling like shit watching her have the time of her life.

 

[blaseblah]

A break just means she wants to fuck other people

 

[fingercuffs]

If you're the only guy she's ever been with, it's pretty understandable she wants to test drive other models really.

Not saying you are a crap lay, but she has nothing to compare it to. Especially if you aren't that serious. Quite sensible when you think about it.

 

[SmilinDesperado]

A "break" never made any sense in a relationship unless you're splitting up over something that is out of your control, like a new job or something that is going to make a big distance between you.

You bang someone else, she bangs someone else, and if the dick and gyna wasn't satisfactory, then you settle on each other?
What happens if you/her get another itch down the road?
You're always just gonna be the dude she settled with.

And what are you doing for over a year with someone without it defined? Just seems like a waste of time.