Ive seen these threads before but never thought I'd be making this thread myself.
How do u guys deal with this and move on? I feel like the worst is yet to come before it gets better.
Hit the treadmill? Join a gym? Get back into shape? Coke n whores?
First of all, take some time to yourself to work through the stages of grief. Shock, denial, anger & acceptance. You can leave out the bargaining part as she cheated on you & you don't want her back after that because in all likelihood she'll just wind up doing it again.
So, go through those stages & then find something to do with the rest of your life.
My first wife & I split up when I was approaching the big 5-0 & for a little while there I thought my life was over but, in a way, it was just beginning. So, if you're worried about starting over at whatever age you are now, stop worrying. It's never too late.
I went back to school & got the Bachelor's degree that I'd put aside back in the '80s to pursue my pro boxing career. And, it was great. I was able to focus on my studies like never before & I graduated with a 4.0 GPA.
I also hooked myself up with some good mental health counseling which helped me a great deal. Having an unbiased professional to talk everything over with can do wonders.
I also eventually got myself back into great shape which helped my outlook & self-confidence but I didn't force myself to do it. I waited until I felt properly motivated to do so. So, if you don't feel like delving into that right away don't beat yourself up about it.
As for moving on to other women, I took my time. I had a few random dates here & there, after a while but I didn't go the "coke & whores" route either. I'm much more of a relationship guy myself so I waited until the right one came along. And, when she did I knew it. And, now I'm remarried & happier than I've ever been before in my life.
I know that you never want to remarry but then, neither did I. I swore that I'd never get married again but things change. You'll change to after your divorce & you may or may not reconsider the remarriage thing.
Well, I've rambled on long enough, bro.
Take care, good luck & peace.