I'm losing the love of my life

[Wrath of Foamy]

What does she have to say about it?

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

He watched a video so it must be true....
Americans have some weird idea that European does not wash or shave.
I have a feeling the average fat whale american shaves and showers a lot less...

I did hear that running water in France is ridiculously expensive, though they tend to get around that just by not leaving the shower running when in it, so quick rinse, off, soap, rinse off and done.

I haven't been to France since I was three, so I have no clue on the matter.

 

[fungi]

If she the One, fucking fight for it, Bobby!
You may have to accept certain things that are not to your liking, but decide if she's worth it. If she is, do it!
Just do it!

 

[lsa]

I did hear that running water in France is ridiculously expensive, though they tend to get around that just by not leaving the shower running when in it, so quick rinse, off, soap, rinse off and done.

I haven't been to France since I was three, so I have no clue on the matter.

 

[Ballsaque]

What does she have to say about it?

I believe if she believe there was nothing there, she would flat out cut contact. That has not happened, but I think it is what I should be doing, even though it hurts like a bitch.

I believe she is actually trying to salvage us in a way i was too much of a pussy to do.

 

[Spam On Rye]

So, sob story incoming:
In the heart of a bustling city, I met a girl. She was French, and her culture are very different to my own. Our connection grew swiftly, moving from a dates to cohabiting in what felt like the blink of an eye.

She had a strong character and principles that fascinated me. It was her unwavering beliefs and sense of self that attracted me to her. As I got to know her better, I realized that her unique perspective on life was something I admired. We both had a shared vision of building a future together, and our bond made me certain that she was the one I wanted to marry.
We also became business partners, founding companies together. We believed in our shared dreams and thought we could make something extraordinary together.
However, over time, there was a shift in our relationship. Our intimacy, once a deep and passionate connection started to vein. I was working a lot, and when we were home, we were "together without being togeher." I take full responsibility for that. But we grew distant, our once sex life and intimacy dwindled to almost nothing.
I thought we could overcome this challenge, but as weeks turned into months, the gap between us grew wider. I could no longer ignore the growing distance. Frustration and confusion began to eat away at me, and I made the mistake of trying to force a solution. I didn't understand her point of view, and I demanded that she stop her withdrawal, without fully comprehending what was bothering her.
I have always told her I would marry her and we would have children, but I kept saying not before this barrier between us was overcome.
Tensions mounted, and we had our share of heated arguments during this time. The breaking point came during a particularly intense argument. We were at a concert, and could barely hug or talk to each other. I told her I was leaving and I couldnt do this anymore.
She moved out to live somewhere else for now. I know this has been eating away at her, she has lost a lot of weight lately.
We met, and she expressed that she wanted to try to 'break up' and then keep the contact to see if we can regain the spark. As in, we wouldnt not be seeing other people, but have some distance from each other for some time. That is obviously a very painful arrangement. But I have respected and honoured it so far, only checking in with her rarely and sending her pictures of our cat. I believe I have to let her have space for now (When we blew up at each other in the past, it could take me 3 hours to get fine again, and her 3 days. That is how she functions.)
I believe that we "lost" the spark, because we moved in with each other too quickly, and we both took each other for granted, because we had a feeling early on that it was us agains the world.
I have throught deeply about this, and I am sure my behaviour has pushed her away. I have taken her, and our intimacy for granted. This girl is the real deal, and I intend to remedy the situaiton and marry her. Everyone is pales in comparison to her.

I dont know why I wrote all this, but perhaps my Sherbrehs can lend some advice. My strategy for now is to respect the arrangement. When the time is right, I will invite her out again, with the mindset that I am meeting her for the first time.

Inb4 youre a oneitis bitch, shes piping someone else, did she at least get you and ipad, etc.

I went through a very similar situation as a younger man. This is just my opinion and not meant to anger you dude. Chicks starting to lose weight is a sign they found another dude. I could be wrong but I don't think so. I held out myself for a year and it just made it all so much worse. She had moved on while I sat in my place with hope and a prayer. Being love sick is one of the worst feelings on earth. It's killed a lot of men. I truely empathize with you man.

Advice from someone who's been there, give yourself time to be love sick but don't shut yourself off from the world and don't go the opposite route and go banging hoes to fill the void. You sound like a genuine dude so, you will recover and find the woman you're meant to be with. Stay strong and don't blame yourself bro.

 

[aunshi189]

Given that I'm married to a French woman I can actually shoot this down as an untruth...

Sounds like you've been scammed by one of those fake french women you hear so much about. She's probably from Hartlepool or something.


@ts, if you're the one who's still living with the cat it seems like you're winning to me.

 

[lsa]

Sounds like you've been scammed by one of those fake french women you hear so much about. She's probably from Hartlepool or something.


@ts, if you're the one who's still living with the cat it seems like you're winning to me.

ts was last seen: Feb 4, 2011

i think he dead

 

[Ardaric]

I did hear that running water in France is ridiculously expensive, though they tend to get around that just by not leaving the shower running when in it, so quick rinse, off, soap, rinse off and done.

I haven't been to France since I was three, so I have no clue on the matter.

I went on Holiday to the North of Spain with my family when I was about 14. We crossed over to France for a couple of days for a bit of variety. I turned on the tv in the little rural hotel we were staying in and saw an advert for the Steven Seagal album "Songs from the Crystal Cave". On television. Like it's a normal thing that people might buy. Clearly there is no level of depravity too low for these people.

 

[JangoMike]

Shes French?

We got Benjamin Martin. We know what he done to the French......

 

[gspieler]

If she the One, fucking fight for it, Bobby!
You may have to accept certain things that are not to your liking, but decide if she's worth it. If she is, do it!
Just do it!

They both have to be "the one" for it to work, IMO. If she isn't willing to fight to save the relationship, compromise, etc, as he is, it won't work. TS can fight for her, might win her back, but if it's not reciprocated, once the relationship settles in again, his passion will wane, and resentment will build again, leading to the same outcome.

 

[fungi]

They both have to be "the one" for it to work, IMO. If she isn't willing to fight to save the relationship, compromise, etc, as he is, it won't work. TS can fight for her, might win her back, but if it's not reciprocated, once the relationship settles in again, his passion will wane, and resentment will build again, leading to the same outcome.

Yeah. Makes sense.

 

[fungi]

Given that I'm married to a French woman I can actually shoot this down as an untruth...

Biological woman or self-identified woman?
The self-identified woman would pretty much have to shave and shower regularly...

 

[Ardaric]

Shes French?

We got Benjamin Martin. We know what he done to the French......
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Certainly wouldn't catch this guy being French or owning any slaves.

 

[FyrFytr998]

She's losing weight because she wants to find new men.

"Try break up" and stay in contact means that if she can't find someone better or if she needs an emotional tampon, you'll listen to her shit.

The spark died because that's what happens. Either build something ever lasting before the spark dies or move on. In this case you should move on, even if you get her back, moving on is the easiest way to do it.

Also, don't think you should start businesses with women you're sleeping with.

Good luck to you and your future.

Get out and start living your life again. This whole “try break up” is just to keep you on the hook while she makes up her mind. Don’t fall for it. She’ll actually want you more if you move on and show her that she will be the one missing out. I’m talking from experience here.

Let her date as well. If anything it will help her make her decision faster. No sense in both of you living in emotional limbo. Life’s too fucking short. Seriously bro, sack up.

 

[Ballsaque]

Get out and start living your life again. This whole “try break up” is just to keep you on the hook while she makes up her mind. Don’t fall for it. She’ll actually want you more if you move on and show her that she will be the one missing out. I’m talking from experience here.

Let her date as well. If anything it will help her make her decision faster. No sense in both of you living in emotional limbo. Life’s too fucking short. Seriously bro, sack up.

It was actually by my request, I think I badly communicated. There is also a lot more to the story.

However, I have dated a lot, and no one has measured up. But I will go no contact, and then if she returns she returns. Thats the only way.

 

[Sweater of AV]

Here's a wild idea. Have you actually told her what you just wrote?

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

Old YouTube clip or documentary...

Not throwing false info here, just saying that is what I heard...

 

[Takes_Two_To_Tango]

You'll be fine, there are plenty of women out there. And to be honest you don't need a woman to validate you. Single life isn't bad at all imo.

 

[gspieler]

She's losing weight because she wants to find new men.

"Try break up" and stay in contact means that if she can't find someone better or if she needs an emotional tampon, you'll listen to her shit.

The spark died because that's what happens. Either build something ever lasting before the spark dies or move on. In this case you should move on, even if you get her back, moving on is the easiest way to do it.

Also, don't think you should start businesses with women you're sleeping with.

Good luck to you and your future.

Get out and start living your life again. This whole “try break up” is just to keep you on the hook while she makes up her mind. Don’t fall for it. She’ll actually want you more if you move on and show her that she will be the one missing out. I’m talking from experience here.

Let her date as well. If anything it will help her make her decision faster. No sense in both of you living in emotional limbo. Life’s too fucking short. Seriously bro, sack up.

+1 on both of these. If you want her back, consider letting her go.