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I'm the stepfather in this situation. I've been dating a girl with three daughters (8, 5 and 3 years old). I have grown quite attached to them and them to me, and after a year I consider them as my kids. Their dad is very present in their lives and he and my gf get 50/50 custody.
The dad has a temper and is borderline abusive. When the kids act up, he won't shy away from calling stupid. I just found out that last saturday he poured an entire 2 liter bottle of ice cold water on the 3 yr old's head because she dared to ask for water twice while he was driving. She asked the first time and he said no cause he is driving. She asked a second time and he pulled over, reached into the cooler next to him, took off the lid, turned around (she was in the sear behind him) and the bastard poured the entire bottle on her. He was bhringing the kids to my gf's and when she took over, her youngest ran to her completely drenched and fidgeting. She continued to shake all night, and was talking in her sleep that night saying "why did you do that dad? Why did you pour water all over me?
My gf isnt lying. I read the text he sent her where he admitted what he did and said things like "i hate myself. I don't deserve to be a father. I am screwing up my own kids".
I haven't been able to sleep ever since i found out and read the texts. My gf is afraid of him and while she did call him and berate him and threatened tk take his kids away from him, knowing her she suffers from just enough Stockholm syndrome to NOT do anything on the basis of keeping him happy and her kids safe. I've considered talkingt him but that may escalate. He's a giant pussy at 5'6 and 165lbs and i'm 5'11 and 220. I know he is afraid of me. My gf won't let me talk to him, probably not to make him upset. Yes he has abused her in the past.
Advice?
Cliffs:
-I am the stepfather.
-Father poured full bottle of ice cold water on toddler while in the car.
-mother wont let me talk to him cause she is afraid of what may happen.
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