How do you guys feel about keeping in contact in girls you've flirted with (touching, pictures or even sex) whilst your in a committed relationship? This could be messaging or seeing them at work, hobby etc. Is there a problem if you guys are just friends and dont continue flirting or would you see it as disrespectful to your current partner?
Relationship boundaries- would you find this acceptable?
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You might have become friends. Maybe you were friends before the flirting? Would you not speak to an ex?
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Lifes too short to worry about all this damn shit man.At the end of the day you either trust the person or you don't. Simple at that
With threads like these i lol when posters are adamant they knows their wife or gf doesnt socialize with any other men
With threads like these i lol when posters are adamant they knows their wife or gf doesnt socialize with any other men
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im friends with somebody ive sent pics @
and im now with somebody else
it's no big deal
what they should really be worried about is me running away and marrying lady gaga
oh my blessed queen
and im now with somebody else
it's no big deal
what they should really be worried about is me running away and marrying lady gaga
oh my blessed queen
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i like to think that everyone wants to see how things are before walking into the shortest street across from that river you grew up by. but that's just me
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Im dealing with this now. Just started dating a girl i really like. Like possible wife type material. But im staying in touch with the girl i was banging when i met this girl. Ive told the old one that she is just a friend and we can no longer be intimate. But we still hang out and watch movies and go hiking and shit. I dont feel guilty to my girlfriend but i do wonder if im selfishly leading the other girl on by keeping her around.
How would you react if she found out you had a past with her and asked you to stop seeing her?
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I don't feel the need to be friends with exes. And I would consider it disrespectful to my current partner. Plus shit can just get weird and full of drama anyway so best to cut that person out if there's potential with the new girl.
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Does your current know you hang out and watch movies, hiking etc with the old one, or that you are doing this with another girl? Meaning are you lying to the current one about that stuff
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I would reassure her that the past girl is no threat(she isnt) and that i would like to remain friends with her but if my girlfriend was not having it, then i would tell the other/past girl bye and that would be that.
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I'm friends with all of my exes. Though I've been in long-term relationships for 90% of my adult life, so they are few in number. My girl doesnt mind because I'm not a jealous guy at all, and i let her be friends with whoever she wants.
Luckily she doesnt like her exes lol.
Luckily she doesnt like her exes lol.
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She doesnt know. But all this stuff is new. Been dating her for like 3 weeks but its going fast and weve had the exclusive talk but situation hasnt arisen to bring up the other girl who is now just a friend.
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Honestly I would say perhaps at least a short term break with her might be worth considering, both to kill any potential that your leading her on and for your current partner finding it uncomfortable.
If you do that then I would say consider limiting meetings with her to situations where your current partner is present. I mean you can't predict who will get along with who but that's going to potentially cut down on trust issues and women don't IMHO automatically tend to get as hung up on meeting people there partner has slept with in the past as men do.
Why luckily if your not jealous?
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im friends with somebody ive sent pics @
and im now with somebody else
it's no big deal
what they should really be worried about is me running away and marrying lady gaga
oh my blessed queen
You know she was born a man, right?
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Here is how you know.
If I'm starting a thread about it? I think I already know I shouldn't do it.
If my girl has a problem with it but I insist it must continue, then innocent or not I need to drop one of them. Whether she's controlling or insecure can help determine my decision, but the spirit here is that I need to commit to the now rather than create problems because of my past.
But, technically I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with keeping up with exes. Except the huge potential for it to go wrong.
In a somewhat related anecdote. Back in high school I was working on a weekend project with some classmates. The boyfriend of one of the girls came by and gave us a pizza. He was a delivery driver, but I still thought it was the coolest thing since it was normally parents who gave the pizzas. I mentioned how he was the nicest boyfriend. After he dropped off the pizza and left someone pulled me aside and told me they had broken up and she had actually started seeing another guy, who was in our group, while they were dating. But that they were still friends.
I ate not one more slice of pizza. I didn't finish the one I had.
If I'm starting a thread about it? I think I already know I shouldn't do it.
If my girl has a problem with it but I insist it must continue, then innocent or not I need to drop one of them. Whether she's controlling or insecure can help determine my decision, but the spirit here is that I need to commit to the now rather than create problems because of my past.
But, technically I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with keeping up with exes. Except the huge potential for it to go wrong.
In a somewhat related anecdote. Back in high school I was working on a weekend project with some classmates. The boyfriend of one of the girls came by and gave us a pizza. He was a delivery driver, but I still thought it was the coolest thing since it was normally parents who gave the pizzas. I mentioned how he was the nicest boyfriend. After he dropped off the pizza and left someone pulled me aside and told me they had broken up and she had actually started seeing another guy, who was in our group, while they were dating. But that they were still friends.
I ate not one more slice of pizza. I didn't finish the one I had.
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For a second, I was hoping this was a ban thread with good porn in the OP.
