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Why do you ask?What is it like being married? Are you still going strong or are you looking for a way out?
Why do you ask?What is it like being married? Are you still going strong or are you looking for a way out?
Well played sirLet me just go ask my wife how I feel about this....
Save yourself the hassle of getting married, just find a woman you hate and give her all your stuff.
You basically give up your freedom and independence to get sex whenever you want. The plot twist is that you have no desire to have sex with that person.
I don't think I could have done much more.. I did everything for her.
She cheated on me with someone 15 years younger.. I was done.
I have recently found out she's a covert narcissist, I had my suspicions throughout the years but you just get blinded by other stuff that's more important, in hindsight knowing the person your with is the most important lesson to learn .. but if your with someone thats extremely good at manipulation and wears a mask your fucked.
I'm sorry to hear that. You are right in regards to your angel turning into a demon. I always say that an enemy can never hurt you because the distance doesn't allow them to deliver a cut.
The greatest stab on ones back comes from the folks who are close to you because they have your affection. They are the ones who can truly dish out a pain inducing strike that an enemy can never be close enough to deliver.
I am a little bit confused. How the hell did she find someone that much younger!? Did the guy know? Did you confront him?
It's scary scenario. There was a girl I used to run in to from the past. We first met at yoga over a decade ago but within 5 years we would right in to each other outside from far away and we would wave but would get separated because either I was on the bus and her outside or vice versa. Despite being strangers it was weird how she would wave, say hi or smile for those brief moments within the 5 year span which was 2007 to 2012.
Afterwards I NEVER ever ran in to her. To this day I can't stop wondering if I missed my chance to meet the love of my life or did I...dodge a bullet!
Hence your comment about how your angel turning into a demon.
She got to know this person though dog walking, from what I gather.. God knows how long it was going on, or what had gone on in the past, around 7 years into our relationship I found a couple of photos of her on a night out in the embrace of someone else, she was able to brush this off as a illusion/bad camera angle.. she was horrified that I would question these photos and turned it against me making her the victim .. typical narcissist behaviour..
My fault I should have read all the behaviour traits, she was also a thief .. she stole from shops all the time, in hindsight she was a fucking lunatic .
Later on in our relationship she became a teacher of young children, perfect for her to expand that need to control people .. even if it was just young children ..
Been married to my wife for 6 years in February. Total time together is 16 years. She's my favorite person on earth. Emotionally strong, takes care of herself physically, great cook, makes her own money. Pays her own bills. Has her own sets of friends.
And best of all....She doesn't need me 24/7. She likes her space, and so do I. And that is the key to a healthy long lasting relationship. Emotional and spacial independence and harmony with another human being...
No shortage in the non-bolded departments, but in the bolded areas, how do I find one with these qualities???
I just got lucky, buddy...I was no prince charming back then, but the universe hooked me up on this one.
Best advice is trial and error. Date as many people as you can and figure out what makes you happy. And then once you've identified what your happiness is, don't settle for anything less. May take a while, but it's worth it.
There's a pattern with people in unhappy relationships. Most times they dont know what they were looking for but got pressured into the next step (kids, marriage, debt) before they were ready. That happens to a lot of people I know. And then that compromise turns into regret, which then turns into blame. And then that's when the downward spiral begins.
But sometimes your perfect person will find you when you're not even looking. Like in my case. It does happen.
I'm sending you good vibes, whoever you are...
Damn this is twisted. I don't know if this makes you feel better or worse but this type of stories are becoming increasingly prominent and on the both side. People are angry these days and vindictive. I see the narcissism on their parts.
It's seems to be a modern human problem because I know a poster who has it out for me ( few other posters as well) for 3 years and has a need to shit on me. Of course in a thread he once expressed that his dreams have been shattered and thus his shittiness is taken out on other folks.
I also have a theory why folks are so vicious to each other on top of failed aspiration. I feel like we have no outside threat from a different country which would unite us for bonding and appreciation of each other.
My advice would be is to allow yourself grieve as much as you need and pick an outlet of expression. You can write an ebook and sell it on Amazon to share your experience. I say this because I notice your post is well written. That and I myself used to be a former incel and yet friends in relationship would be bitching about not being single. It seems happiness is scarce. Thus I recommend to you writing because I find content and fulfillment to come from what a person accomplishes and learns in life. Hope all is well with you and remember, your case is no rare anymore and don't let it get you down too much.