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Men, I need your advice.
So as I briefly mentioned before, I got divorced about 1.5+ years ago.
Life is put together now, and I'm getting ready to propose to my girlfriend of a year. We're hoping to do a wedding in August.
So it's her first time getting married and despite how uninterested she is in all the hoopla of a wedding, she's committed to having her family involved and all that shit. Even though this whole thing is going to be low-key, I'm pretty wary of anything that puts the focus on me getting married, lol. I'm radically embarrassed to do another wedding, to send invitations to the same friends and family, some of whom do not know the full story of why I ever got divorced.
When we talk about dates and anything that isn't what color to paint plant pots, I get a small ball of anxiety in my stomach. When this goes on for long enough, I tend to emotionally shut down and completely become apathetic (not a good thing considering it's involving my lady and all).
So seriously, what do i do with this? What kind of ground to give up? How much anxiety and personal embarrassment do I deal with to allow her to plan this thing in a way she feels honors her family and herself?
So as I briefly mentioned before, I got divorced about 1.5+ years ago.
Life is put together now, and I'm getting ready to propose to my girlfriend of a year. We're hoping to do a wedding in August.
So it's her first time getting married and despite how uninterested she is in all the hoopla of a wedding, she's committed to having her family involved and all that shit. Even though this whole thing is going to be low-key, I'm pretty wary of anything that puts the focus on me getting married, lol. I'm radically embarrassed to do another wedding, to send invitations to the same friends and family, some of whom do not know the full story of why I ever got divorced.
When we talk about dates and anything that isn't what color to paint plant pots, I get a small ball of anxiety in my stomach. When this goes on for long enough, I tend to emotionally shut down and completely become apathetic (not a good thing considering it's involving my lady and all).
So seriously, what do i do with this? What kind of ground to give up? How much anxiety and personal embarrassment do I deal with to allow her to plan this thing in a way she feels honors her family and herself?