Of course there is. There is a government function which gives benefits and they're denied access to it without a reason good enough for me.
Fixed. I understand you don't agree with this view of what marriage is and why we encourage it. Thats ok. That is why we live in a republic and have free speech. If enough people agree with you then our representatives will legalize gay marriage. If not, you just have to live with it.
I don't view it in the same way. I don't have a problem with polygamy and I don't think it should be restricted, but it's a different scenario.
But what if I was born polygamisexual?
Single Bob wants to marry Susie. He's able to.
Single Mary wants to marry Susie. She can't due to her gender (but functionally, her sexual orientation).
Married Joe wants to marry Susie. He can't because he's already married.
Susie is denied based on an uncontrolled trait. Joe is denied based on his current legal status.
Ok. Well tell me this. What would happen if I tried to join the women's vollyball team? I probably would be denied. Why would I be denied?
I'm hoping I don't have to explain where I'm going with this. So, why would I be denied and do you agree or disagree with that reason?
I'd have to judge it based on the scenario.
Great, so we agree afterall. We have to take each form of marriage and evaluate it as a society based on the scenerio.
They're not isolated incidents. We're talking about studies of dozens or hundreds of kids, or even nation-wide studies like Rosenfield's one about education outcomes.
You act like they studied 6 kids.
When you're talking about 300 million people, dozens of people are isolated incidents.
And why can't you provide any evidence that gay parents perform poorly? It's YOUR CLAIM that they're not as good. Support it.
Because I'm not suggesting gay parents perform poorly. Gay people are individuals, not marriages. Even then I'm not suggesting gay marriages do not perform well. But on a large scale, its better for kids to have their mothers and fathers. Thus we encourage that.
So what? No one is proposing that nor would it ever happen. The only people who would be forming these types of families are gay people who make up < 5% of the population.
1) There's no risk of it becoming widely adopted because, again, gay people are a tiny portion of the population.
Again, you miss the point. This whole thread you miss the point. Many in this country think its best to have a traditional family based society therefore we encourage it with our money. A non-traditional family is the exact opposite, therefore we don't encourage that with our money.
Why encourage something that is the exact opposite of what you're looking for? Why doesn't that register?
Thats not to say people can't have non-traditional family scenerios, or that its wrong, or that sometimes shit happens and families get broken up. Its just saying the ideal scenerio is a family sticks together.
Think about what happens when a women goes to get artificially inseminated by some random sperm for her and her partner and then the kid grows up wondering who their real dad is, what thier roots are, and where they comes from. The kid is looking at all his/her friends who have dads and have the kind of relationship he could never have with his moms. Thats not the ideal scenerio man, so why encourage it?
Then the little girl goes to her mom and asks 'mommy, why don't have I have a dad?'. Then the mom goes 'You see honey, you don't have a dad because you were created in a lab. But thats ok. You don't need one. You have two mommys!! Those other kids could only hope for more mommys!'. Lol, c'moooon man.
2) This argument doesn't work anyway. It's like saying we shouldn't encourage people to be doctors because if 80% of the population was doctors, society would fall apart due to lack of teachers/policeman/engineers/salesmen.
No, if doctors were the exact opposite of what we considered to be in our best interests then maybe you'd have a point.