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I kept asking the same question. Jesus ChristAre you sure you're a grown man?
I kept asking the same question. Jesus ChristAre you sure you're a grown man?
at first I was like damn he's just lonely and gets pissed when you don't talk to him on the phone then you go on about his new gf and yeah women have a way of doing that to relationships. My dad has always been an asshole and it's his girlfriends who patches the shit up between us until he starts wanting to hangout with his family then they turn into cunts.I feel like I just need to get this out. He wrote me another scathing email tonight. It's emotionally mean and hurtful.
I had a great childhood. Felt loved by both parents. They were married for 40 years before my mom died. There was never any abuse. I felt like the house had a lot of love. Sure, there were a handful of times when maybe he was a little mean but nothing out of the norm.
My mom passed away and that's when I really started to feel like I was being emotionally abused. He's in his late 60's now. Much too long to type out. Will probably go see a counselor at our church to figure out how to respond to these things now because I don't even know how to respond to him anymore.
I think I've become afraid of his reactions and anger. I can't say what I really want to say. He's always right. The rest of the world is always wrong.
The email put me and my wife down. To be honest, full of half-truths, lies, and a different reality. He's gotten very angry with me in the past about strange things like not answering the phone when he calls. He moved to the same city as us to be close his grandson. Since being in a new relationship, he has become very mean and since moved to another state.
I'm not sure if the new woman has poisoned his head or if he's poisoned his own head. When they first met, she would walk into their bedroom and essentially pout when we were there. My dad would confide in us how she was jealous of our relationship. It got to a point where my dad couldn't do anything with me alone and the previous great relationship with my wife quickly soured. My wife and my dad could no longer do anything alone either.
When we were over, she eventually began to answer for him when I would ask my dad a question. She would talk over him. I truly feel that all along she has wanted to create a rift between us and my dad.
The worst point before he moved was when they came over. My wife asked him a question about cups he brought over. He blew up at her in front of me and our son. The new woman chimed in and said "It's her attitude." I looked at her and said, "Don't ever talk to my wife like that again." My dad walked briskly up toward me, almost charging at me which he had never been aggressive toward me before, and told the woman to get in the truck. My dad went on about how my wife was disrespectful, my previous relationships never disrespected him, my wife has changed, and on and on. They drove off.
Later, my son told me "I thought papa was going to hit you."
Not sure how to end this. I want to tell my dad that the way he has treated me is sometimes emotionally abusive. I feel like I can't say that. He's made comments to the woman before, "If my son ever treated me the way your son treats you I'd be done with him." I feel like he threatens to be done with me even though there's always been so much love between us. I can't even understand how a dad can do that to his son, especially since we've had a great relationship our entire life.
I want to tell him that I think the new woman has destroyed our relationship and family. But feel like I can't or am not allowed to say that. I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I don't want to hear her name. I don't want her in my house. I don't ever want to see her again.
I think I'm scared of my dad "writing me off." Taking me out of the will and wanting nothing to do with me. I feel like I've put up with this instead of saying anything because I want to make sure my wife and son are taken care of when I die so I want his assets to go to me so they can go to my wife and son.
Never thought I'd write something so true and personal on here but it's anonymous so I think that's why. And I've finally had enough.
Don't know how to end this so this is the end for now. Thanks for reading this massive mess.
EDIT: I also feel like he holds everything financially he has done for me over my head. I bought you this, I gave you this amount of money to help you and your wife out, and on and on. I never hold anything I've done for him over his head. I helped care for my mom for four years while she had cancer and not once have I ever said to him, "you owe me for that."
He says my wife and I spend money like it grows on trees. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I'm the most frugal and biggest saver. I've maintained a spreadsheet budget for the last six years or more. Down to the penny every month.
I could go on and on. The new woman got mad because we wanted to bring food over for Thanksgiving to be nice. She told my dad, "They don't think my food is good enough."
In this email, my dad was mad about how we had Thanksgiving at a friends last year. No, we didn't. We had a pre-Thanksgiving dinner with very close friends before the actual day of Thanksgiving when my dad and the woman came over. FUCKING HELL. Are we not allowed to do anything other than what you want us to do, how you want us to act, and what you want us to say?
I feel like I just need to get this out. He wrote me another scathing email tonight. It's emotionally mean and hurtful.
I had a great childhood. Felt loved by both parents. They were married for 40 years before my mom died. There was never any abuse. I felt like the house had a lot of love. Sure, there were a handful of times when maybe he was a little mean but nothing out of the norm.
My mom passed away and that's when I really started to feel like I was being emotionally abused. He's in his late 60's now. Much too long to type out. Will probably go see a counselor at our church to figure out how to respond to these things now because I don't even know how to respond to him anymore.
I think I've become afraid of his reactions and anger. I can't say what I really want to say. He's always right. The rest of the world is always wrong.
The email put me and my wife down. To be honest, full of half-truths, lies, and a different reality. He's gotten very angry with me in the past about strange things like not answering the phone when he calls. He moved to the same city as us to be close his grandson. Since being in a new relationship, he has become very mean and since moved to another state.
I'm not sure if the new woman has poisoned his head or if he's poisoned his own head. When they first met, she would walk into their bedroom and essentially pout when we were there. My dad would confide in us how she was jealous of our relationship. It got to a point where my dad couldn't do anything with me alone and the previous great relationship with my wife quickly soured. My wife and my dad could no longer do anything alone either.
When we were over, she eventually began to answer for him when I would ask my dad a question. She would talk over him. I truly feel that all along she has wanted to create a rift between us and my dad.
The worst point before he moved was when they came over. My wife asked him a question about cups he brought over. He blew up at her in front of me and our son. The new woman chimed in and said "It's her attitude." I looked at her and said, "Don't ever talk to my wife like that again." My dad walked briskly up toward me, almost charging at me which he had never been aggressive toward me before, and told the woman to get in the truck. My dad went on about how my wife was disrespectful, my previous relationships never disrespected him, my wife has changed, and on and on. They drove off.
Later, my son told me "I thought papa was going to hit you."
Not sure how to end this. I want to tell my dad that the way he has treated me is sometimes emotionally abusive. I feel like I can't say that. He's made comments to the woman before, "If my son ever treated me the way your son treats you I'd be done with him." I feel like he threatens to be done with me even though there's always been so much love between us. I can't even understand how a dad can do that to his son, especially since we've had a great relationship our entire life.
I want to tell him that I think the new woman has destroyed our relationship and family. But feel like I can't or am not allowed to say that. I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I don't want to hear her name. I don't want her in my house. I don't ever want to see her again.
I think I'm scared of my dad "writing me off." Taking me out of the will and wanting nothing to do with me. I feel like I've put up with this instead of saying anything because I want to make sure my wife and son are taken care of when I die so I want his assets to go to me so they can go to my wife and son.
Never thought I'd write something so true and personal on here but it's anonymous so I think that's why. And I've finally had enough.
Don't know how to end this so this is the end for now. Thanks for reading this massive mess.
EDIT: I also feel like he holds everything financially he has done for me over my head. I bought you this, I gave you this amount of money to help you and your wife out, and on and on. I never hold anything I've done for him over his head. I helped care for my mom for four years while she had cancer and not once have I ever said to him, "you owe me for that."
He says my wife and I spend money like it grows on trees. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I'm the most frugal and biggest saver. I've maintained a spreadsheet budget for the last six years or more. Down to the penny every month.
I could go on and on. The new woman got mad because we wanted to bring food over for Thanksgiving to be nice. She told my dad, "They don't think my food is good enough."
In this email, my dad was mad about how we had Thanksgiving at a friends last year. No, we didn't. We had a pre-Thanksgiving dinner with very close friends before the actual day of Thanksgiving when my dad and the woman came over. FUCKING HELL. Are we not allowed to do anything other than what you want us to do, how you want us to act, and what you want us to say?
You aren't a man If you cry about being emotionally abused.... That's not a real thing, only chicks say that. If you're Dad is being a Prick it happens... But emotionally abusive? Ughhh.
Slap him with a #metoo
I feel like I just need to get this out. He wrote me another scathing email tonight. It's emotionally mean and hurtful.
I had a great childhood. Felt loved by both parents. They were married for 40 years before my mom died. There was never any abuse. I felt like the house had a lot of love. Sure, there were a handful of times when maybe he was a little mean but nothing out of the norm.
My mom passed away and that's when I really started to feel like I was being emotionally abused. He's in his late 60's now. Much too long to type out. Will probably go see a counselor at our church to figure out how to respond to these things now because I don't even know how to respond to him anymore.
I think I've become afraid of his reactions and anger. I can't say what I really want to say. He's always right. The rest of the world is always wrong.
The email put me and my wife down. To be honest, full of half-truths, lies, and a different reality. He's gotten very angry with me in the past about strange things like not answering the phone when he calls. He moved to the same city as us to be close his grandson. Since being in a new relationship, he has become very mean and since moved to another state.
I'm not sure if the new woman has poisoned his head or if he's poisoned his own head. When they first met, she would walk into their bedroom and essentially pout when we were there. My dad would confide in us how she was jealous of our relationship. It got to a point where my dad couldn't do anything with me alone and the previous great relationship with my wife quickly soured. My wife and my dad could no longer do anything alone either.
When we were over, she eventually began to answer for him when I would ask my dad a question. She would talk over him. I truly feel that all along she has wanted to create a rift between us and my dad.
The worst point before he moved was when they came over. My wife asked him a question about cups he brought over. He blew up at her in front of me and our son. The new woman chimed in and said "It's her attitude." I looked at her and said, "Don't ever talk to my wife like that again." My dad walked briskly up toward me, almost charging at me which he had never been aggressive toward me before, and told the woman to get in the truck. My dad went on about how my wife was disrespectful, my previous relationships never disrespected him, my wife has changed, and on and on. They drove off.
Later, my son told me "I thought papa was going to hit you."
Not sure how to end this. I want to tell my dad that the way he has treated me is sometimes emotionally abusive. I feel like I can't say that. He's made comments to the woman before, "If my son ever treated me the way your son treats you I'd be done with him." I feel like he threatens to be done with me even though there's always been so much love between us. I can't even understand how a dad can do that to his son, especially since we've had a great relationship our entire life.
I want to tell him that I think the new woman has destroyed our relationship and family. But feel like I can't or am not allowed to say that. I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I don't want to hear her name. I don't want her in my house. I don't ever want to see her again.
I think I'm scared of my dad "writing me off." Taking me out of the will and wanting nothing to do with me. I feel like I've put up with this instead of saying anything because I want to make sure my wife and son are taken care of when I die so I want his assets to go to me so they can go to my wife and son.
Never thought I'd write something so true and personal on here but it's anonymous so I think that's why. And I've finally had enough.
Don't know how to end this so this is the end for now. Thanks for reading this massive mess.
EDIT: I also feel like he holds everything financially he has done for me over my head. I bought you this, I gave you this amount of money to help you and your wife out, and on and on. I never hold anything I've done for him over his head. I helped care for my mom for four years while she had cancer and not once have I ever said to him, "you owe me for that."
He says my wife and I spend money like it grows on trees. That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I'm the most frugal and biggest saver. I've maintained a spreadsheet budget for the last six years or more. Down to the penny every month.
I could go on and on. The new woman got mad because we wanted to bring food over for Thanksgiving to be nice. She told my dad, "They don't think my food is good enough."
In this email, my dad was mad about how we had Thanksgiving at a friends last year. No, we didn't. We had a pre-Thanksgiving dinner with very close friends before the actual day of Thanksgiving when my dad and the woman came over. FUCKING HELL. Are we not allowed to do anything other than what you want us to do, how you want us to act, and what you want us to say?