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So when my dad died he left everything to my mom and nothing really for us kids.
My dad was the earner in the family.
I think he probably assumed my mom would take care of everyone in terms of inheritance one day.
Well, soon after my dad died, my mom got a new boyfriend and shes just blowing through all the money.
Expensive trips multiple times a year, expensive dinners, drinking, retired 5 years early after only working part time for years before that, cosmetic surgeries, brand new suv etc.
She sold her house and is buying a new one with the boyfriend.
By the time shes gone, everything our family has ever worked for will be sold off for vacations etc.
No money left for us, nothing to really give to the next generation.
Me and one of my sisters struggle. I dont drive and I sacrifice a lot just to get by. My sister has a partner but they are even worse off than me.
Even though its not my money, I get angry watching my mom waste all my dads money. She gave us a few thousand after he died but not much.
She pretty much kept it all.
She did make upgrades to our rental house where I live, but she hired her new boyfriends pals, they did shit work and its all crumbling apart.
I told her to hire a pro but she wouldnt listen.
I cant help but be angry. My sisters tell my mom to blow all the money and she deserves it. How does she "deserve" to blow all my dads money on herself?
None of my siblings are having kids, and im the only one who was interested. Our family line ends with me now.
The thing is, im not having a kid and having to start our entire family wealth from scratch.
In a few years our family wealth will be gone because my mom is spending it all. Its only a matter of time before she sells the rental for more vacation time and Ill have to look for a new place. She wants to sell it now.
I just think how differently I would act in the same situation. I would help my
struggling kids.
Now I dont expect help, but I just cant help but notice the difference in mentality.
Do you think its fine that she basically spent everything our family line has ever worked for, for generations, on herself?
My sisters seem to think it is. I think its fucking ridiculous.
Again, im not expecting a handout and if I never get a dime so be it, I just think its fucked to do that.
Opinions?
My dad was the earner in the family.
I think he probably assumed my mom would take care of everyone in terms of inheritance one day.
Well, soon after my dad died, my mom got a new boyfriend and shes just blowing through all the money.
Expensive trips multiple times a year, expensive dinners, drinking, retired 5 years early after only working part time for years before that, cosmetic surgeries, brand new suv etc.
She sold her house and is buying a new one with the boyfriend.
By the time shes gone, everything our family has ever worked for will be sold off for vacations etc.
No money left for us, nothing to really give to the next generation.
Me and one of my sisters struggle. I dont drive and I sacrifice a lot just to get by. My sister has a partner but they are even worse off than me.
Even though its not my money, I get angry watching my mom waste all my dads money. She gave us a few thousand after he died but not much.
She pretty much kept it all.
She did make upgrades to our rental house where I live, but she hired her new boyfriends pals, they did shit work and its all crumbling apart.
I told her to hire a pro but she wouldnt listen.
I cant help but be angry. My sisters tell my mom to blow all the money and she deserves it. How does she "deserve" to blow all my dads money on herself?
None of my siblings are having kids, and im the only one who was interested. Our family line ends with me now.
The thing is, im not having a kid and having to start our entire family wealth from scratch.
In a few years our family wealth will be gone because my mom is spending it all. Its only a matter of time before she sells the rental for more vacation time and Ill have to look for a new place. She wants to sell it now.
I just think how differently I would act in the same situation. I would help my
struggling kids.
Now I dont expect help, but I just cant help but notice the difference in mentality.
Do you think its fine that she basically spent everything our family line has ever worked for, for generations, on herself?
My sisters seem to think it is. I think its fucking ridiculous.
Again, im not expecting a handout and if I never get a dime so be it, I just think its fucked to do that.
Opinions?