Women were not really allowed to divorce, given they could mostly not read or write well enough to live independently.
Men could beat their wives, according to the law.
Women in many areas of the nation had far more children than they could support, leading to countless children dying from disease and famine.
children were largely forced into the workforce, in extreme conditions.
My point stands, we are far better off in America than we were in the 1850s. And once again, you take more moral trouble in defense of conceptual lives, than actual children.