I see your point, but I think there were a couple of significant differences there. One of the elements with Yoda that really stands out to me is that before he went into exile, he outright trains Kenobi how to communicate with (or presumably as) a force ghost (mentions that he can teach him how to contact Qui Gon). This is big because even if one were to say, well Yoda had no idea Luke or Leia would end up doing anything of note and just went to the swamp to live a lonely existence, it's impossible to discount that he was still making moves. Teaching Kenobi how to do that was a clear way of saying, death isn't the end- and even though our friends have died, we can still learn from them via the force and perhaps even pass on our own knowledge once we die.
Any way I try to view it, I keep seeing it as Yoda and Kenobi looking to embrace the force and work toward the re-establishment of the Jedi and balance in the universe while it seemed as though Luke was basically rejecting the force (shut himself off from it as Rey points out) and was not looking to do anything related to that end.
Yoda and Kenobi were intently monitoring Luke's life. Kenobi outright tells Luke he's got to go to Degobah. Luke didn't know Rey from Adam when she arrived and couldn't have cared less to meet her.
You're assuredly right that it all culminates with Luke embracing his heroic role and doing the right thing. But there are a bunch of mixed messages on the way to there. Luke seems to be ultra critical of the Jedi (based on his lessons to Rey) yet he chooses to spend his twilight years at the very place that houses the sacred Jedi texts. He is also really bummed out when Yoda torches them.
The movie went out of its way to show Luke as an ambivalent character. I'm sure that the point of that was to add depth or flesh things out, but a lot of people were pissed because after so many years without Luke onscreen as a character, they did not feel that version of Luke reflected what we had to come to know about him through the OT.