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There's a lot of "boomer humor" bitching about your wife, but most married men I know, specifically my peers are happily married.
My peers who've had their marriages fall apart and wreck their lives are usually people making horrible life choices. If she's in a more culty sect of christiantiy and you don't want to convert, you're going to have a rough marriage. If your partner doesn't have a handle on their substance abuse, it you try to save someone from deportation, if she thinks masturbation is infidelity and you love porn, if you've never lived together or shared any bills you may be setting yourself up for a fall.
I've literally seen every one of those wreck things.
And yeah, it is definitely true that having kids can have a major impact on your sex life and both family and relationship dynamics change as you get older. But, on the whole, married life is good if you both know what you want out of life and you have an honest open relationship. You'll still have challenges and rough patches but good faith, mutual respect and as much sex as you can manage will bridge a lot of gaps.
I've never heard anyone say "yeah, we try to be our best selves for each other, we screw like rabbits, and we make a good team... but it just isn't working out".
Good luck.
My peers who've had their marriages fall apart and wreck their lives are usually people making horrible life choices. If she's in a more culty sect of christiantiy and you don't want to convert, you're going to have a rough marriage. If your partner doesn't have a handle on their substance abuse, it you try to save someone from deportation, if she thinks masturbation is infidelity and you love porn, if you've never lived together or shared any bills you may be setting yourself up for a fall.
I've literally seen every one of those wreck things.
And yeah, it is definitely true that having kids can have a major impact on your sex life and both family and relationship dynamics change as you get older. But, on the whole, married life is good if you both know what you want out of life and you have an honest open relationship. You'll still have challenges and rough patches but good faith, mutual respect and as much sex as you can manage will bridge a lot of gaps.
I've never heard anyone say "yeah, we try to be our best selves for each other, we screw like rabbits, and we make a good team... but it just isn't working out".
Good luck.