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Arms too short to box with god..one bourbon, one scotch, one beer
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Arms too short to box with god..one bourbon, one scotch, one beer
Agreed. Earlier I mentioned that understand the laws on divorce in his state first. In my state, everything is pretty much a formula. If there aren't custody issues or unusual circumstances, anyone should be able to figure out the split of assets (and equalization payment) as well as child support. Actually, the county will do the child support worksheet for you.
Forces to you, keep it up! Very cleverly and strongly from your side and the side of the wife will agree on parting without conflicts (as I understood it) For many, this process is one of the most unpleasant and painful periods in life. You can perfectly understand everything, you will not be alone. I think a professional lawyer will help you to sort things out. Do not be afraid of the future - you have more opportunities, you can do it!
My wife and I have agreed in principle to getting divorced today. I'm really overwhelmed and have no idea what step to take first though. We have a daughter who's 13 and I have a step son from her who's 19. We've lived in this house we've been renting for almost 8 years and have deep roots laid down here. We have a TON of stuff, just to start with.
Also I live in Colorado where the cost of living is skyrocketing. The whole thing is really intimidating. On one hand I'm kind of "excited" (I guess) to be "free", but I'm really scared of change too if I'm being totally honest. We have almost nothing in common and I haven't been attracted to her for nearly 10 years. She's really dishonest with money and makes next to nothing at her job, so whenever I let her have my card I only get it back when I throw a fit because I discover it's in the red with a bunch of overdraft fees, etc....
I don't even know where to start. Holy shit, I'm scared. What's the first step?
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You should probably get a lawyer. Don't believe anything she says about it being amicable.
My wife and I have agreed in principle to getting divorced today. I'm really overwhelmed and have no idea what step to take first though. We have a daughter who's 13 and I have a step son from her who's 19. We've lived in this house we've been renting for almost 8 years and have deep roots laid down here. We have a TON of stuff, just to start with.
Also I live in Colorado where the cost of living is skyrocketing. The whole thing is really intimidating. On one hand I'm kind of "excited" (I guess) to be "free", but I'm really scared of change too if I'm being totally honest. We have almost nothing in common and I haven't been attracted to her for nearly 10 years. She's really dishonest with money and makes next to nothing at her job, so whenever I let her have my card I only get it back when I throw a fit because I discover it's in the red with a bunch of overdraft fees, etc....
I don't even know where to start. Holy shit, I'm scared. What's the first step?
This is pretty much the story of every divorce I have ever seen. She already takes your cards and gets them into the red and is dishonest about money. This will continue as she is plotting to take you for alimony and lulling you into a false sense of "amiable" as she lawyers up to grand slam the split in her favor. You could lose up to 90% of your "half" and you almost certainly will end up paying alimony since you confessed she makes next to nothing at her job.You should probably get a lawyer. Don't believe anything she says about it being amicable. She's gonna hose you as bad as she can just like every other woman in the world.
I did work for a guy who lost everything in a divorce. Except his horses. He had a ranch which she got. So he was homeless with two horses and she wouldn't even let him keep them at the ranch.
This is pretty much the story of every divorce I have ever seen. She already takes your cards and gets them into the red and is dishonest about money. This will continue as she is plotting to take you for alimony and lulling you into a false sense of "amiable" as she lawyers up to grand slam the split in her favor. You could lose up to 90% of your "half" and you almost certainly will end up paying alimony since you confessed she makes next to nothing at her job.
Alimony is one of the most outdated things that needs to be nerfed.
Get an attorney. She will try to bait you by saying that you can work it out amicably and then backdoor you by hiring an attorney of her own and try to take everything from you. Often times, even if someone has good intentions they consult some attorney who tells them all that he can get them and they see dollar signs. Protect yourself.
Have you tried staying together and just swinging?