You sound really mature.
You’re right about the part where having sex with a woman can often stop you from having a deeper friendship with them.
A lot of girls don’t want to hang out with you anymore if you sleep with them and don’t date them after. They don’t want you around scaring away future boyfriends or husbands or guys that take them seriously.
It’s the culture that we live in.
Something about the way I grew up taught me that banging chicks makes you a badass, and being in the friend zone makes you a loser.
Game of Thrones, sir Jorah Mormont and all that.
Meanwhile Dario Naharis is smashing Dany on the low.
I think what I mean to say is that I know intellectually your ideas have a lot of merit.
But the primitive instinct of my brain disagrees.
I feel like it’s such a tragedy that I’ll only get to sleep with a tiny tiny fraction of all the beautiful women in the world in my pathetic short life that’s the blink of an eye.
Well, seeing as how I'm in my mid-50s, I've probably been on this planet for about twice as long as you have. So, I ought to be somewhat mature by now. LOL.
As far as wanting to make love to as many attractive women as humanly possible, we all have thoughts & urges like those. But there comes a point when you realize that it's not likely a sustainable way to go about life. Most of us begin to long for something more permanent at some point & the tradeoff for that is giving up the goal of having sex with as many women as possible.
Oh sure, there are some dudes who adhere to the adage that "variety is the spice of life" & they want to continue that lifestyle for as long as they possibly can. But you don't strike me as that sort of guy. I have a feeling that if you meet the right one you'll be able to give up the numbers game.
Me? I was never big on building up my numbers just for the hell of it. Not that I didn't have my fair share of brief flings & one night stands back in the day. I was no choirboy that's for sure, But I was always more of a long-term relationship type of guy. So, I meet someone & if we really clicked I'd find myself spending six months, a year, sometimes two years with someone. That went on through most of my 20s until a girl that I'd intended to just have a short fling with turned up pregnant on my doorstep one day as I approached thirty & although I wasn't really in love with her I spent close to eight years living with her. And we had two great kids together but the relationship came to an end & shortly afterward I met my first wife where I worked at the time.
It was an office romance that turned into a bit of a tumultuous ten-year marriage that produced my youngest daughter. I knew that the marriage was a mistake pretty early on but even though we couldn't seem to get along I did love her. So, we tried to keep things going for our daughter but we separated a couple of times before we finally decided to split up for good in 2012.
I spent much of the following five years working on myself by going back to college to get my Bachelor's degree & while I dated a little bit here & there, I wasn't looking for a relationship. Then, in 2017 I met my wife online & the rest is history. We've been pretty much inseparable ever since. Though, believe me, in the beginning, I had my doubts about whether or not she was too good to be true. I'd never had an online relationship before so I was a bit leery about getting catfished. I mean, here was this beautiful, hot, highly intelligent, well-educated chick who earned three times as much as I did at the time & who was 21 years younger than me. I was like "yeah, right..." But over time she gained my trust & when she began sending me expensive gifts I knew for sure that if she was a catfish then she was doing it all wrong. LOL. And of course, we face-timed a lot so I knew that she was who she said she was.
And fast forward to the present & we've been married for going on two years & I couldn't be happier. It took me almost 57 years to find the right relationship for me but I did it. So, there's plenty of hope for you, bro. Until then build those numbers up while you're waiting to find the right one. By all means, have fun. But just try to not sleep with your female friends. At least not the ones that you close to & care about.
Sorry for the length of this reply. I get carried away with my writing sometimes. Peace.
