Racial fetishization vs preference

[Long Dark Blues]

I've been watching Narcos, I do be liking me some Colombian women.

 

[KnightTemplar]

That's your first mistake. Reddit is the internet equivalent of the War room, fuck that place. Makes me think every human on the planet is a piece of shit.

It's only about 85%, tops

 

[eddymotto]

On behalf of the Sherdog community, I would like to congratulate you on your sexual proficiency. I can already tell that your casual statement "I get with women" is the sublime modesty of a true alpha male.

I also compliment you on your wise decision to leave the radicalized hellscape of Reddit behind for the gentle and wise discourse of the enlightened few on Sherdog.

At the risk of making my fellow Sherdoggers blush, the gruelling application process to even become a member here quickly pays off in the rarified quality of the forums.

 

[ShadBo]

Look at all the fresh new July and August accounts in here.

Welcome back, fellas. Good luck with your new accounts.

 

[Slothbroth]

On behalf of the Sherdog community, I would like to congratulate you on your sexual proficiency. I can already tell that your casual statement "I get with women" is the sublime modesty of a true alpha male.

I also compliment you on your wise decision to leave the radicalized hellscape of Reddit behind for the gentle and wise discourse of the enlightened few on Sherdog.

At the risk of making my fellow Sherdoggers blush, the gruelling application process to even become a member here quickly pays off in the rarified quality of the forums.

 

[ChickenBrother]

would this be the same reddit that hit me with a ban hammer for posting a reply to a thread about quoting a line from a popular movie and letting other redditors try and guess the movie it came from?

''we have reviewed your appeal, but we still find your post to be hateful and upsetting to others, reddit is a community where people should feel safe''


and the famous line ?

If they didn't know the source or context, today's soy boys might be forgiven for being offended. But given the source, this quote should be memorialized for posterity.

 

[eddymotto]

all in good fun. welcome (or welcome back) to Sherdog.

 

[Dizzy]

I had this hot topic conversation at work about a year ago, a very progressive far-left chick claimed a white colleague of ours was fetishizing black people since she was nice/flirty to me and another black colleague but the lady who she claimed was fetishizing bf was white and her kids are white which shows to me she digs attractive men regardless of race.

Without going over a dictionary definition for me I take fetishization as a sexual conquest some examples "I need to nail an Arab broad, I haven't slept with one yet need to check that off my list" or "All the Asian porn I watch Asian chicks scream the loudest and they are generally small so it's easy to pick up and destroy so I need to bang some Asians" "Black girls have nice juicy lips perfect for head, I need a black chick to give me dome" "I need a black dude since they have a huge third leg etc"

I can conclude those as fetishizing

Preference
I deem more as "I'm black and every black chick I dated was a headache so I go for non-black girls" That is a preference although a personal anecdote shouldn't have you judge the whole race, it's his preference so be it.

It can be" I prefer girls with a voluptuous body type and since such and such race exhibits these and that is what turns me on I go for that race of girls.
PS none of these quotations are my experience they are just examples

This is 100% the answer.

 

[BlankaPresident]

Why is it ok for women to objectify a man's physical appearance but guys are shamed for the same thing?

You should ask that on Reddit.

 

[shunyata]

Mutual attraction is critical. Low interest is a turn off. This was some random women commenting on YouTube comments and reddit who were shaming guys in interracial relationships. It shouldn't have irked me, but it did.

I think that particular variety is just racism. If someone is hating on an interracial relationship because they fundamentally believe both parties should only date within their ethnicity, they can spew whatever bullshit they want to attempt to cover it up... but it's just racism.

And yeah, casual racism should irk you.

 

[djacobox372]

IMO: It depends if you are attracted to a stereotype or just physical features.

If you're attracted to blondes with blue eyes, it's likely you'll be dating only white girls.

If you're attracted to petite girls with tan skin and straight black hair, you'll likely be dating a lot of Asians and Hispanics.

 

[stalehotdog]

I joke, but I think that's what's actually at the heart of this double standard.

Two way consent, two way attraction.

If you don't have that, it gets ugly.

If a woman has a thing for you and you're thinking of doing all kinds of stuff with her in bed and you let her know that, if she's hot for you that'll just turn her on even more. Unless you propose something weird that she's not into. But if she's not attracted to you at all and you give voice to those thoughts, she'll be rightfully calling you a creep.

If a tall white guy finds asian women attractive and is hounding women who aren't interested in him, there's your inappropriate fetish. If he runs into an asian woman who has a thing for tall white guys and they hit it off together mutually, nobody gives a shit except for female incels.


Now if the guy is demanding the woman dress up in stereotypical costumes in the bedroom, or the woman is demanding the guy dress up as a viking with a horned helmet for the same reason, that gets a bit fetishy. But if both parties are into that? Let em bang bro.

That's a really good way to put it. Two consent, two way attraction. Good post

 

[Phlog]

Honestly I don't care what people like or want, it's up to them.

 

[Ardaric]

I'm single because I will only date Inuit women. Pretty rare down here in the Southwest of England. A friend of mine tried to set me up with a woman who turned out to be a Yupik. We are no longer on speaking terms.

 

[YEET]

Thought this was gonna be about interracial BBC cuckold gangbangs

I was hoping.

 

[Joshuaace]

Mayberry VS War Room

 

[moreorless87]

Besides the racial aspect of it which could reflect some kind of bigotry I think the big issue is that feminism is really not monolithic the way a lot of right wingers seem to think it is.

There are feminists who are very sexually liberal and feminists who are very sexually conservative, I would argue that in recent years post #metoo the latter has started to push back against the former which was more dominant in the 90's and 00's.

What I think tends to get confused most often is "sexualisation" and "objectification", they've become pretty much interchangeable these days and I think that's again a sign we have shifted back to a more conservative view, the idea that sexualising a woman is automatically objectifying and belittling her.

 

[KBE6EKCTAH_CCP]

What is the difference? I've observed a double standard in a lot of women on this subject where they think it's ok for them to have a racial preference but they claim that it's creepy and disgusting 'fetishizing' when men do the exact same thing.

I was just on Reddit and women were talking about kinks saying how disgusting it is when a man has a racial preference. Then I read this post by some other lady and no one even called her out on it:

"Well just to get it out of the way, ima sucker for Latino/ Hispanic men. Love that caramel skin and if that luscious caramel skin covers some broad strong shoulders, I get wobbly. If those broad,or at least strong, shoulders have a pair of strong arms attached, then I get stuck on stupid. If they aren’t big, no problem, a little definition would be nice."

Why is it ok for women to objectify a man's physical appearance but guys are shamed for the same thing?

Guys are shamed by whom? Instagram accounts? Seriously IRL i behave pretty macho and nobody gave me shit ever. Stop caring about online stuff it s virtual.

 

[Slothbroth]

Guys are shamed by whom? Instagram accounts? Seriously IRL i behave pretty macho and nobody gave me shit ever. Stop caring about online stuff it s virtual.

It's online, but real people posting. There are a lot of women who think that way. As much as I pretend that I don't care what anyone thinks, it bothers me.

 

[Oenomaus]

I'm single because I will only date Inuit women. Pretty rare down here in the Southwest of England. A friend of mine tried to set me up with a woman who turned out to be a Yupik. We are no longer on speaking terms.

Same bro, I’ll tell ya what, I’m frickin’ tired of being catfished by these Yupik women