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You should just cheat. If life has taught me anything they’re already been cheating on you since day one.
I have done 1 and 2, and have contemplated 4 and 5. I don't want 3.Option 1: just jerk off in the shower like a decent husband
Option 2: Run the idea by her
Option 3: Divorce her
Option 4: cheat on her
Option 5: kill yourself
I am open to therapy, but I don't see how therapy is going to help me get around the fact that I want to be tied to a bed and beaten.If you really love your wife you should consider therapy. I don't think you're going to get the advise you need here.
Love my wife to death, but our intimacy needs are just miles apart.
Last Tuesday, I passed up an opportunity from another girl, who was offering to give me exactly what I wanted. The offer is still on the table.
What's less likely to lead to the destruction of my marriage? Cheating on her behind her back, or asking her for permission to have some fun on the side?
But it already sounds like your marriage is in the pits, bud.See the problem is I confided in my assistant, and she is extremely big on cheating behind my wife's back. Her view is that coming clean about my desires is more likely to destroy my marriage, and is a selfish move to alleviate my guilt.
My marriage isn't in the pits. I love my wife. I just have fucked up desires that aren't going away, and the temptation to cheat is eating me alive.But it already sounds like your marriage is in the pits, bud.
Give the Podcast a listen, Dan may have the advice you need.
Well instead of all that bullshit, maybe you guys should talk about what's going on. I don't know I think marriage counseling might help decide whether you should stay married or not.Love my wife to death, but our intimacy needs are just miles apart.
Last Tuesday, I passed up an opportunity from another girl, who was offering to give me exactly what I wanted. The offer is still on the table.
What's less likely to lead to the destruction of my marriage? Cheating on her behind her back, or asking her for permission to have some fun on the side?
And, since it needs to be said, my wife and I have an 18 month old son, and another boy due in March. Divorce is just not something I want.
Yea you need therapy.I am open to therapy, but I don't see how therapy is going to help me get around the fact that I want to be tied to a bed and beaten.
Hmm. You should definitely talk with her. Tell her that you’re having desires(not to cheat!!!) that need to be filled, that are t being met. Try to be diplomatic, don’t point a finger and blame her. I haven’t read entire thread, I’m at work... but is it a lack of sexual intimacy between the two of you? No blowies, no booty? You have to talk about it. Maybe seek a sex counselor. But if she is fucking you regularly, I don’t know what to say. You can do whatever you want, but if you cheat on her... hate to say it, but it’ll make you a real piece of shit.My marriage isn't in the pits. I love my wife. I just have fucked up desires that aren't going away, and the temptation to cheat is eating me alive.
1: Lack of intimacy is a big issue. Our only intimacy is intercourse 2-3 times per month, which is universally preceded by her requesting that I be as quick as possible.Hmm. You should definitely talk with her. Tell her that you’re having desires(not to cheat!!!) that need to be filled, that are t being met. Try to be diplomatic, don’t point a finger and blame her. I haven’t read entire thread, I’m at work... but is it a lack of sexual intimacy between the two of you? No blowies, no booty? You have to talk about it. Maybe seek a sex counselor. But if she is fucking you regularly, I don’t know what to say. You can do whatever you want, but if you cheat on her... hate to say it, but it’ll make you a real piece of shit.
We all have desires and thoughts, so I feel you, but you shouldn’t act on those desires just because you’re horny. That’s some high school puberty shit. I’ll say it again though, if it’s a lack of sex and she isn’t willing to fuck you, maybe you need to talk to her about an open relationship.
Good luck, my dude.
I’ll edit this after i read some of your posts. If you want to be pegged, maybe start by having your wife use a finger in your ass while she is blowing you. Then start escalating it from there. That’s as far as I’ve got up to now, lol.
Sex is intimate, but intimacy isn’t necessarily always sex. That is a low amount, and I know from personal experience that when you drop to 2-3 per month it’ll soon become 2-3 times per year, and then the couple splits or both parties live on fucking miserable.1: Lack of intimacy is a big issue. Our only intimacy is intercourse 2-3 times per month, which is universally preceded by her requesting that I be as quick as possible.
2: I have never had nor do I desire receiving a blow job.
3: Don't care about pegging.