Well I'm definitely a guy watching from the sidelines, but I'm not necessarily being stubborn about it for my own sake.
I know a few Ukrainians, and while they obviously hope for peace as soon as possible, they're not itching for an immediate peace at any cost. Admittedly I only speak to them from time to time, but I don't think they have ever thought giving Putin both land and the opportunity to gather his forces for a future attack is a good idea.
I base my opinions on the Ukraine war strongly on what I perceive their preferences to be, so yeah, you can castigate me for whatever stance I take as stubborn, but at the same time if Ukrainians either in general or the people that I know decided enough is enough and let's just give Russia this or that, then fine, I'll back that too.
Until I know they're thinking that, I don't really see why I should, either.
Why should I?