My wife is polygamous and has 3 other boyfriends but I’m loyal and dedicated to her. I know how he feels
You mean polyand. (Andro = men)
Polygamy
The chick said, "
Obviously, I was married in the past (Alex was too)" ...
From what I understand Alex was
divorced, while Merle was "separated" ...
Divorced = no longer married.
Separated = still married.
I dated a woman back in 2007, who said she was divorced, but in fact was
still married and still living with her husband.
Obviously, it ended the moment I realized this, and her husband divorced her soon after.
Anyway, bottom line is, if Alex knew Merle was "separated," and dated her anyway, then the onus is on him.
However, if Merle said she was "divorced," but was actually just "separated" (i.e., still married), then the onus is on her.