What if you lost your interest in women?

[zapataxiv]

What age is middle age exactly?



Being happily married with a good sex life eliminates the desire to look elsewhere. In that case I don’t think it has much to do with age.

this is true
yesterday i started realizing that. I am on a trip by myself and i was surrounded by temptation. the difference is right now its not tempting, i mean i see they are hot, i know they are hot. Really i am worried about my home and how my wife and baby are doing

 

[koolinkunming]

What if? Lol. I've been there since my divorce. Not worth the level of drama they come with.

In this case I think it’s fear holding you back. There CAN be happiness after divorce if you keep your head in check finding another mate.

 

[Jack Reacheround]

I would be so productive if I didn't spend all my free time watching internet porn. Seriously.

 

[Mike]

In this case I think it’s fear holding you back. There CAN be happiness after divorce if you keep your head in check finding another mate.

Oh sure there CAN be, I don't doubt that. It's just that I was already a fairly socially awkward and reclusive person before the divorce. It changed me. I don't believe in romantic love the same way I did before. And dating girls just to get laid was never my thing. Combine that with becoming less and less outgoing as I age, and just being busy with all my mental and physical problems, and it's just hard to care.


Probably some sort of testosterone issue as well, since I've lost most of my interest in sex and I'm generally just exhausted all the time.

 

[koolinkunming]

Oh sure there CAN be, I don't doubt that. It's just that I was already a fairly socially awkward and reclusive person before the divorce. It changed me. I don't believe in romantic love the same way I did before. And dating girls just to get laid was never my thing. Combine that with becoming less and less outgoing as I age, and just being busy with all my mental and physical problems, and it's just hard to care.


Probably some sort of testosterone issue as well, since I've lost most of my interest in sex and I'm generally just exhausted all the time.

You sound a lot like me before I was 25. I still am to a large degree. I just don’t give a shit about interacting with a lot of the people out there blathering about useless things generally, and like you I’m no more outgoing than I was then. When I met my wife I was in a really negative, sour place and she just kinda happened along and it fit in a positive way.

Depression and fear destroys the libido. Exhaustion because of depression is an easy trap to fall into. It takes a ton of work to drag yourself out of that. Just don’t completely cut yourself off from the ability to feel passion again. Not looking for it...that doesn’t work, but leaving yourself open to chance and not being completely reclusive, because that’s a lonely world.

You’re one person I always relate to more than most on here. Oh yeah, and if you do meet someone who just out of the blue sets your hair on fire (yes, physically tingling and all that) take that leap.

 

[therealdope]

I would be more concerned if my interests didn't convert into results. What's an interest in Women without results?

 

[hillelslovak87]

If I lost my interest for women, I'd just walk up to women and be like

Until they got out of the seat/line I wanted.

 

[Fedorgasm]

I decided a few years back I would take a break from dating. After a while it just became the norm. I still think about banging chicks, of course. I just don't put in any effort to do so. I have accomplished exactly zero with my extra time. Just sayin'.

LOL

Well thanks for being a test subject. At least now I know.

Are you at least happier now that you don't have female drama in your life?

 

[Spoken]

assuming this also means a lack of interest in companionship, I'd sell most everything I have, move further out of town, keep my teaching gig, and then just live on a plot of land trying to learn how to farm and continue to give zero fucks about everyone.

 

[Fadetoblack918]

I would get ALOT more shit done

 

[NHB7]

How would your life be different if one day you just suddenly lost interest in women altogether?

And no, I don't mean you're suddenly interested in dudes. I just mean if your desire to find a mate or get laid just went away?

You wouldn't be depressed because you can't miss something you don't want.

Imagine how much of your time and energy could be re-focused on your career, your goals, your fitness, your hobbies, your passions in life...

Unfortunately I am still interested in females but when I stop to think about how much more productive and less stressful my life would be without them I kinda wish I could just turn off that switch that makes me want them in my life at all, whether it's for companionship or even just sex.

Ironically, those things you said you would suddenly focus more on are the very things that attract women. Hardworking, career driven men that are physically fit and even are passionate about hobbies....if you want more women, do more of that stuff.

 

[xhaydenx]

How would your life be different if one day you just suddenly lost interest in women altogether?

And no, I don't mean you're suddenly interested in dudes. I just mean if your desire to find a mate or get laid just went away?

You wouldn't be depressed because you can't miss something you don't want.

Imagine how much of your time and energy could be re-focused on your career, your goals, your fitness, your hobbies, your passions in life...

Unfortunately I am still interested in females but when I stop to think about how much more productive and less stressful my life would be without them I kinda wish I could just turn off that switch that makes me want them in my life at all, whether it's for companionship or even just sex.

I can sorta talk about this, or at least what the productivity is like when you're almost like this.

I'm totally interested in girls, its just that making video games has pretty much controlled my life since I was a teenager, to the degree that I don't generally do many other things unless I see how it can benefit making video games for me.
I mean, I'm super fit, eat well, and don't drink anything but water, but only because I figure that the healthier I am the longer I'll be able to make games.
Same with seeing new places. I only really want to see these new places because I want more references to use in game design.

So, yeah, you'd be without one thing in your life that, for a lot of people, is a major thing. All that time you'd have spent on that can definitely go to whatever you're passionate about.

 

[Seaside]

sounds like hell and time to kill self

 

[Organic Damage]

I can sorta talk about this, or at least what the productivity is like when you're almost like this.

I'm totally interested in girls, its just that making video games has pretty much controlled my life since I was a teenager, to the degree that I don't generally do many other things unless I see how it can benefit making video games for me.
I mean, I'm super fit, eat well, and don't drink anything but water, but only because I figure that the healthier I am the longer I'll be able to make games.
Same with seeing new places. I only really want to see these new places because I want more references to use in game design.

So, yeah, you'd be without one thing in your life that, for a lot of people, is a major thing. All that time you'd have spent on that can definitely go to whatever you're passionate about.

Let me guess, you program Japanese dating simulator games?

j/k you sound class bro. I totally threw myself into writing during the formative years when most guys are out chasing ass, so I understand how you feel.

 

[Doughbelly]

I used to be chase the P but now I chase the D, more or less.

Actually, D usually chases me, but that's how it is being a tranny.

 

[Sir Galahad]

That's when you start posting regularly in the OT. Mayberrians are just bi-curious.

The day gets closer for @Zer moving to Thailand.

 

[Brodels]

It happened to me a few years ago and felt very freeing. And much less to worry about. Lasted about three years. I ignored every female that talked to me.

 

[Renard]

I don't think you'd be happy, anyway, and you'd probably miss being horny as well. Humans are wired to want companionship.

 

[Jimmy Jazz]

I think about alot of the girls I missed while I was flying solo. For a few years after my breakup I had a good amount of girls approach me or that I could of reasonably dated, but I was just to scared and scarred to initiate anything. I shouldve because I'm sure good times would be had. Right now I'm just improving myself because a person to me can be like a whole new world out there.

 

[xhaydenx]

Let me guess, you program Japanese dating simulator games?

j/k you sound class bro. I totally threw myself into writing during the formative years when most guys are out chasing ass, so I understand how you feel.

lol. One day I'm gonna make one of those japanese dating sims. They sell like crazy for some reason.