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Its been proven that the worst thing to happen to a good marriage is children. It literally worsens their relationship. Googling It, every study says the same thing. The only dissent was from the Christians.
https://www.theguardian.com/comment...e-kids-children-relationship-suffers-research
atlanta.cbslocal.com/2014/01/14/study-couples-without-children-have-happier-marriages/
I mean, knowing that why would two people who enjoy the hell out of each other, and do things together and go interesting places and do cool things, want to risk destroying their great relationship having children? I tend to be a sceptic but the science matches the reality around me everyday.
This is begging for additional context. In the first few years after children arrive I agree with you. Infants and toddlers are hard fucking work with little reward (for the dad and for the marriage anyway - I gather mothers find very young children more rewarding). That said, as the children age the pendulum swings the other way - and it swings HARD. I shudder to think what it would be like going into my later middle age, and eventually senior, years without my children.